Help p!ease

I`ll be thinking of you tomorrow Sapphire.

Hope you manage the day tomorrow..I'm sure you will. take care.keep posting when you feel like it..

Blue I will think of you tomorrow - I will be at my partners step father's funeral. I hope you find some comfort.

Rescue remedy can help too for panic attacks

Bluesapphire wishing you the strength to see you through tomorrow and the coming days

Best wishes, sapphire.

My thoughts and prayers are with you Blue45Saphire

I’m glad you are feeling better sapphire and that you have such good support from your brother.
I will think of you tomorrow.

from me too Bluesapphire
Alygran and I are coming from the same place, as they say, you will fine and all your fears will be swept away by doing the right thing for your DH, giving him the Goodbye he deserves. I just kept telling myself paw is not in that box, he was here in our hearts, in his children and grandchildren .
Doesn’t make it any easier for you though
I will be thinking of you tomorrow (and after) x

Condolences and

Just keeping up to date. DH's funeral is tomorrow and I am feeling tons better about it. I was in a very bad place when I wrote the previous post, only 3 days after he had died, and feeling very raw. My brother has put together a lovely order of service and good readings and I have chosen the music. It helped me a lot to go and see DH in the chapel on Monday. It confirmed to me that it is not the loving, living, laughing DH that I knew in the coffin; it looked like him but it was just his shell. The person we knew is in our hearts and minds and always will be. The person he was lives on.

Thank you so very much everyone. I was having a really bad day yesterday. I had to go into town yesterday for the first time since he died, and needed a couple of things from M&S. I had a coffee and suddenly for the first time in my life I had what I think was a panic attack, my heart was racing. I couldn't get out fast enough. I looked on Dr Google afterwards and apparently what I should have done was some deep breathing and ride it out. I have to go out again this afternoon, as my kettle has just given up the ghost and started to leak, so I am going to be very brave. I have one of my lovely cats fast asleep on my lap at the moment which is very comforting. Looking forward to tomorrow - my daughter- in-law is picking me up and we are all going over to my daughter 's for lunch, and I am staying over. Unfortunately my son is working tomorrow, so shan't see him.

Sapphire I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm sure what you have planned will be a wonderful tribute to your dear husband and that you will get through the day with the help of your family and friends especially your brother.

Oh sapphire. I'm so sorry for you. This is a sad, strange time between times. It sounds like you have planned a lovely service. I'm sure you will get through it somehow. You will be surrounded by good wishes including from those of us here on GN who will be with you mentally on the day. We'll be looking out for your posts over the next wee while.

Sapphire I am so very sorry for your loss.

Sapphire mine was a small brandy before the hearse arrived and a very large one (or three) after we got to the wake.
I do look back and think that was a lovely service, we did him proud

You won't be sick, you will get through the day but cope in the way which suits you, if you cry you cry, if you want to sit whilst others stand then sit, there are no rules to adhere to.

I went to the church the night before my husbands funeral, just the priest and me, I sat by the coffin and said aloud all I wanted to say, to God and to my husband .

I am so deeply sorry , x

Thank you. I am very lucky in that my brother is a retired priest and is taking the service. I have chosen the music and the hymn and he has suggested the bible reading, so I am getting exactly what I want, which the family are happy with. Together we have put together the order of service. What I'm worried about is my emotional state on the day. I'm worried about feeling (and being) sick, having a panic attack and all that sort of thing. I so dearly want to give him a good send off. My GP has prescribed a sherry before we go, because I told her I would be first at the bar when we get to the venue afterwards! I know that once the service is over I shall feel better, and I have the support of so many people.

So sorry for your loss great advice already given

Sapphire

So sorry for your loss Sapphire. My husband died 17 months ago, but my family helped me to cope and get through it all. It will be difficult of course, but you will cope.

I'm sorry for your loss. You will be with your family and friends and will get through it, though as a widow myself I know it is very difficult.

I am so sorry for your loss. Try to take a day at a time and don't think ahead. The numbness helped me to get through my dear husband's funeral. I don't know how my family and I got through it but we did. Take care. My best wishes to you and your family.

Sapphire somehow something takes over our mind at times like these, I don't know what or how but it does and we sort of glide through it. It is only later when we think as others have said..we think "how did I get through it"

Take care and keep posting.

Hello Sapphire, I'm so sorry for your loss. There is good advice here and I can only add that one day you will look back and find that you did get through the funeral, because somehow we all find a way of doing things that are unimaginable before we do them.