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Dear Sapphire I hope you find the strength you need, take care, take what help is offered and talk and cry as much as you need

I’m so sorry for you loss sapphire. Please listen to maw when she reminds you, and all of us that it is your family’s farewell and so you can choose the style and detail. Do accept all the help that is offered, ask for what you need and yes, you will cope. Look after yourself, sending love.

I was going to mention the numbness too. For me it was a blessing.

sapphire sorry for you loss. You will find the strength from somewhere, we all do. Call on all the support you can muster from friends and family. I found the numbness saw me through it. Take care.

My heartfelt condolences, my dear. My DH died last November and his funeral (a Requiem Mass and burial) weren’t for 3 weeks for a variety of reasons.
This gave me the opportunity to plan a lot of family input into the service, 3 sons in law were pall bearers, 3daughters each did a reading, a family friend did the eulogy and I waited for inspiration for the music, choosing hymns and incidental music which meant a lot to us.
I think that helped.
I hope your family and friends will be be supportive and share your burden, but if I may say two more things
1This is YOUR family’s farewell, so do whatever feels right to you, don’t be steamrollered into any aspect of the service that you have not chosen
And 2 You will cope. Something will click in and even if the tears run non stop that is your prerogative as his life partner.
There will be better days and believe it or not, there will be worse.
I just kept the thought firmly in my head that Paw was NOT in that box, but in our hearts, in our children and in our grandchildren. I walk up to his grave in our village churchyard most days and I talk to him and I cry. Sometimes I sob my heart out, everything is “allowed”
I wish you strength and comfort in the days, weeks and months (even years) to come

sapphire Its awful having a funeral looming over you, but you can cope with it, I'm sure, and you will want it to be a good day to remember your husband. That will help you, although it is very hard.
I thought I may be physically sick on the day of my daughters' funeral, or fall to the ground weeping, but I got through it, and you will too.

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I am so sorry blue. I hope you have family a nd friends who will support you at this difficult time. Tell them how you feel. They will understand. A step at a time. Take care.