I think it's probably people who have never had a bereavement who don't know what to say. If you have been through it, you know that any offer of help or sympathy is welcome and you certainly don't want to be avoided. I am fortunate to have many widowed friends who were a great support when I lost my husband a year ago.
Old sayings with a theme 2 ( continuing *nanna8*'s thread)
Last weekend, in Rutland, the first statue in Britain of the late Elizabeth II was unveiled.