Nina, I'm sorry for the loss of your sil and the odd situation that has arisen because of this. Imo, you need to accept your dh's feelings and respect them as they are. If, eventually, the grief hits him, I'm sure you'll be there for him. But otherwise, please leave this alone. It may be that he mourned the loss of her in his way years ago when he realized the cut off was going to be permanent. He and his other sister may not really feel as if they lost a sister at this point.
Good Morning Saturday 27th April 2024