For all the babies.....

I worked for a charity that helped families whose children had died, or were terminally ill with cancer and leukaemia. The saddest comment I remember hearing was when a mum told me she didn't know what to say (just after she lost her child) to the child's sister who asked 'am I still a sister?" To all you brave and courageous families out there, my heart goes out to you.

I often think of my 2 babies who would now be 43! They died a day after each other soon after they were born. A consultant friend put me in touch with a person who was starting a charity and I served on the Steering Committee of what became SANDS and became an organiser for our area and a counsellor for a few years. My family knows about their siblings and I must admit I was terrified when their own babies were born as well as happy for them. I still remember the inane comments that were said at the time and the bravery of a close friend who told me about her pregnancy rather than letting me find out indirectly. It might sound trite but in spite of the dreadful sadness something positive has come out of it all. If it hadn't I don't think I would have coped at all.

I’ve not been in your position but remember my Mums sadness for the big brother I didn’t meet who left an empty place in our family. My heart goes out to you all.

The recent storyline on Gransnet must have stirred memories for many of us. I too would have had a 46 year old son now but instead I have a 45 year old much loved daughter and can't imagine life without her, or her daughter or the wonderful 'Guid Son' (SIL in standard English) who having lost his own parents years ago, is now part of our family as if he were our own son.

It is just Life (and death) isn't it? I try not to dwell on what might have been, but do remember the son I never had, particularly on his due date, which he did not reach.

Maw kitty my first daughter lived 7 weeks,she would have been 40 a few weeks ago...I understand how you feel ,I am the same.....for all of you who have babies that have died and hugsx

Nonnie - 7, oh dear God ?

I have been fortunate not to have been through such a loss. My heart breaks for all of you who carry the hurt deep inside you forever. My MiL lost a little one and I know she never, ever recovered.
and (((hugs))) for all of you remembering this week and always.

((hugs)) as always Maw. Thank you for sharing.

I should have a child who would be 40 around this time of year. I have been a bit weepy lately, and every year at this time, and I always forget why. He, I'm sure it was a boy, died in my womb (called a missed abortion then!). I know we probably wouldn't have had our youngest 2 daughters (and their children) if that hadn't have happened but it is something that is always there.

Thanks for posting this Maw, I'm in tears for you and for myself and for the 7, yes, not a typo, who I have never forgotten and never will. Also, of course, for the adult child I lost last year. I wish there had been support for us all back in those days and am glad there is now so that others don't feel so alone in their loss.

My heart goes out to you all

*Maw". And for everyone who has walked this path.

My son was 6 months old, and he would be 40 this year. Tears can still run fresh.
chocolatepudding ...I think Baby Awareness Week hit many of us, so you are far from alone.

I received an email from The Lullaby Trust regarding Baby Loss Awareness Week 9th to 15 October and I cried.

My first DD died in her cot a few days before Christmas 1976. I learn at lot from that awful experience. It was the first funeral I attended, trying to cope with people's tactless words and the press coverage too.

DD is remembered everyday and I too wonder what our lives might have been if she had lived.. RIP little one xx

I'm with you mawbroon. RIP