Understanding yet again please

Thank you all so much , your words have calmed me, brought me through that shock this morning

Yes , you are Bluebirds, how blessed I am

Annie x

Think of your GN friends as the bluebirds Anniebach

Remember the poem "Footprints in the Sand". At the moment you are being carried by your Loving God although it may not feel like it. One day you will be able to walk beside Him again and there will be 2 sets of footprints once more. Meanwhile try to rest in his love with hope in your heart. My prayers are always with you.

Dear Annie I have no special words just an understanding and my care to send to you xxx

Anniebach I thought about you yesterday when I saw the floods on the television; that must have been painful to see the bridge on the news.

I do hope that your DGD has managed to get through to you today and is keeping you company

Oh Annie, reports of the unfolding weather dramas at the bridge must have been an awful sharp reminder of your own pain, so sorry that none of us are close enough to come to you and just sit with you, but if it helps, we are all thinking of you, and remember your friends on GN are here 24 hours a day, there is always somebody there to reply, or even send you a virtual

Annie, it must be so hard when reminders trigger the memories. And last November isn't long ago either. I wish I could make you a cup of tea and give you a hug. I hope you can find some peace. Sending hugs & love. xx

Annie I understand that you feel you should have been able to protect your child, even though an adult. Logic tells us that this was not possible unyet we still beat ourselves up. I suppose it is part of the many aspects of grief. I know you feel it every day and today is a double whammy because of the floods.
So sorry Annie. X

Sending love to you Annie, I can understand the guilty feeling. As mothers, we can't turn off the maternal instinct to protect, no matter what age our children are. Thinking of you Annie, hoping you find peace of mind very soon.

Oh Annie I wish I could come and give you a hug.

I think guilt is built into us Mothers, no matter what age our AC are they are still our babies, that basic instinct to,protect and nurture ever diminishes.

Grief is like a heavy black cloak, some days it feels lighter than others, unfortunately it is the price we pay for loving our families so much.

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Thank you all x

It was a shock seeing it this morning so I reached out to you again.

This sounds stupid, my daughter was an adult , yet I feel as I did when she was small , that ‘I must protect my child’ which is so strong.

My thoughts of the bridge last year are of guilt, I should have been there, yes irrational, 5 in the morning , I was asleep and my girl an adult , yet this ‘I should have been there’ .

When she read the inquest into her fathers death and read his body had been in the road all night she was distressed and said ‘ why didn’t you go looking for Daddy?’ ,I explained it was in the night and we were sleeping .

Now I ask myself the same . Can mothers here understand this irrational guilty feeling ?

I don't know whether the thoughts will ever pass Annie but I hope it gets easier for you.

You know we are here to 'listen'. And to send you love!

I don't have any answers but can only say I'm sorry.

Dear Annie you are often in my thoughts and prayers. The previous response from Cherrytree says it much better than I can. As for the bridge, it became the instrument of your pain, but also provided the release your beloved girl longed for, the path to her longed for home. God bless!

These reminders are so hard to handle. All we can do is walk beside you.

Annie I pray that sometime soon your pain will ease.
I understand that next month is going to do difficult for you.
This time of year can often cause our moods to dip and bleakness becomes like a heavy cloak across our shoulders.

Winter will surely be followed by spring.
I pray Annie that you will find your little 'Spring' one day.
Your beautiful daughter is safe in the arms her lovely brave father?

www.thesilverline.org.uk/

This is available today for a chat.

Oh Annie I do hope so but I suspect we will always be knocked sideways by such reminders. However, let's hope that when they happen we learn to cope with them better. We know that grief is love but painful none the less isn't it.
Thinking of you Annie. X

annie the only support I can give are my prayers which continue for you. May God give you strength and comfort. Your beloved daughter is in His care now. ? x

No Annie I don't think it will. I think it may get slightly easier to live with but it won't go away if my experience is anything to go by. Went to a Kinks show a couple of days ago and was in tears listening to Thank you for the Days. Making me cry now just thinking about it.

I'm so sorry. How sad this must be. All things do pass, and eventually we learn to live with the pain. But it's not easy.

Annie, there has to be a path through this.

Annie, your last paragraph brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for your recent loss. You will be feeling distressed, anyone would be.
I am sending you a hug and a hand-hold.

I'm sorry Anniebach I am so sorry. xx

I wish I could promise that it will, but you know and I know I can’t.
All I can say is that there will come a time when you can cope with the memories, the images and and the pain of grief.
It is hard to “unthink” these thoughts and I struggle with the mental images of Paws last hours -and after. My defence is to try only to dwell on them when I feel strong enough to and to link them where I can with happier thoughts.
No easy answers Anniebach not even hard ones, but reaching out to you nevertheless