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terminally ill granddaughter

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teatime Fri 26-Oct-18 18:49:55

My granddaughter aged 9 was diagnosed with a brain tumour in May. She is now being given end of life care by the local hospice at home. My heart is broken, I love her so much. I used to look after her three times a week until a couple of years ago when her mother gave up work. My son and daughter in law now want it to be just them looking after her and I have to wait until they say I can visit, at present a couple of days a week. I do understand this but feel desperate at not being able to see her more. My biggest worry is that for the past 3 weeks she has been unable to speak, move, or open her eyes. She is fed via an NG tube. She can hear, and the thought that she may be so frightened but cannot tell anyone is terrifying.

Allegretto Fri 26-Oct-18 22:36:01

Teatime, I am so sorry that your granddaughter is so ill. I can only imagine how sad and helpless you are feeling. You and all your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Grammaretto Fri 26-Oct-18 22:35:19

How terrible for you all. I wish there was something I could say or do to comfort you.
I hope you see her.
She knows she's loved.

gillybob Fri 26-Oct-18 22:31:31

Oh teatime I really can’t find the words to tell you how sorry I am for you, your Darling little granddaughter and her parents . I really can’t begin to imagine what pain you are all going though. My thoughts are with you all tonight xx

silverlining48 Fri 26-Oct-18 22:27:18

I can only imagine your pain.
Your poor granddaughter, her parents, you, are all in my thoughts. I am so very sorry teatime.

Luckygirl Fri 26-Oct-18 22:27:06

Such a distressing situation for you all. flowers

Nannylovesshopping Fri 26-Oct-18 22:13:42

So so sorry Teatime she knows you love her

phoenix Fri 26-Oct-18 22:06:43

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Bellanonna Fri 26-Oct-18 22:01:33

Tears as I read your post Teatime. Terribly, terribly sad.

52bright Fri 26-Oct-18 21:59:58

My deepest sympathy to you and yours Teatime. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

SueDonim Fri 26-Oct-18 21:57:10

I'm so sorry, Teatime. There are no other words. flowers

Maggiemaybe Fri 26-Oct-18 21:56:55

I am so very sorry, teatime. flowers

Apricity Fri 26-Oct-18 21:51:52

Teatime my heart is just breaking for you. I have years in my eyes as I write this. Having experienced a tiny grandchild diagnosed with an aggressive childhood cancer I can understand your grief. We were lucky and with wonderful care my darling grandchild has survived and continues to do well but it could so easily have been a different outcome.

Watching a precious little one suffer and slip away is devastating. I can only send you virtual hugs and thoughts from the other side of the world. Please look after yourself and the other family members who will also be grief stricken and heart broken. ❤️?❤️

PECS Fri 26-Oct-18 21:46:44

This is such a sad situation. Heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. flowers

merlotgran Fri 26-Oct-18 21:42:38

So sorry to read your terribly sad news, teatime.

cornergran Fri 26-Oct-18 21:38:40

I’m so sorry, although sorry doesn’t seem enough. Love to you all teetime, I can only imagine the pain that you are all carrying. It’s so hard to hear. My thoughts are and will be with you.

ffinnochio Fri 26-Oct-18 21:38:16

Such sadness for you and your family Teatime flowers

nanaK54 Fri 26-Oct-18 21:29:19

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

oldbatty Fri 26-Oct-18 21:20:47

So so sad. The poor wee girl will drift off to a better place. So sorry.

MawBroon Fri 26-Oct-18 21:01:05

The saddest post I have ever read and it puts all the petty squabbling, nitpicking and triviality in perspective.
My deepest sympathy, love and prayers for you all flowers

Doodle Fri 26-Oct-18 20:50:58

Oh teatime that is so sad. What a terrible time for you. I pray for some comfort for you all. So very very sorry.

Jalima1108 Fri 26-Oct-18 20:46:56

teatime how sad, how unfair it can be sometimes.
I hope you can see her soon and offer some small comfort.

I am so sorry for all of you flowers

sodapop Fri 26-Oct-18 20:45:27

Oh teatime what a terrible time for you all, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family God bless you all. flowers

Sar53 Fri 26-Oct-18 20:41:03

Teatime so so sorry for everything you and your family are going through. My thoughts are with your little granddaughter xx

Marmight Fri 26-Oct-18 20:34:00

So so sad for you all x

M0nica Fri 26-Oct-18 20:20:13

What can I say that hasn't been said already? Just want to say how my heart goes out to you and your family and the little one gently leaving you.