Wedding rings after death of husband

My friend’s mother had hers enlarged when she got engaged to her second husband, and wore them on her right hand , (at her new husband’s suggestion).

I am divorced and on a dating site where I have met a few gentlemen who were widowers - all wore their wedding rings. I find it touching that they still wear their rings and would not expect them to remove them just because they had lost their wives. I have two widowed lady friends, both of whom would be horrified if anyone suggested they stop wearing their wedding rings!

I followed the Spanish custom, and on a significant (to us) date after my husband's death - New Year's Eve to be precise - I moved the ring to my right hand (actually the Spaniards move it from right to left but it was the principle I liked.) So now I have two ring scars, the one of my marriage and the one of my widowhood. I quite like it as a way of paying respect but marking the change in status.

My husband died just over 2 years ago and I still wear mine although it’s not my original ring. I had to take that off a few years ago for an x-ray and could get it back on. So for good few years I’ve been wearing a silver ring that my husband had given to my daughter so it has sentimental value.

We wear a wedding ring to ward off unwanted sexual interest. And most times it works.

Just consider this before you discard your wedding ring.

Let the pale empty groove around the base of your ring finger be the message.

Actually I was married for fifty years until my husband died 3 years ago. When we married I bought my own wedding ring (he was working abroad) and wore it for the ceremony and never wore it again even though we had three children.

Yes keep wearing your rings. Unless someone is looking to have a new relationship that is the only reason I can think of why you would remove them.

Teetime
What a sad time for you all.

Possibly in slightly more forthright terms too Minerva.
How rude and hurtful.

a ring is a symbol that you wear when you marry,when people divorce I would say why wear it,especially if you are with someone else.if you are widowed and don't intend to be with someone else then I would say its ok,but then who am I to judge what someone wears? ive a friend who left her husband 10 years ago not divorced but still wears ring,i asked her why,she replied -security?! nuts

What a strange comment for anyone to make. I think I would have told her to mind her own business.

I still wear mine but it is now on my little finger. It got very tight and was difficult to remove and I didn’t like the idea of being shackled to a bit of metal. I am happy to take it off if needed as I don’t do symbolism much. Each to their own.

I shan't be making any comment to my daughter about whether she wears her wedding rings or not - its her business and her comfort.

I think it's rather rude and insensitive of anybody to make such a comment. I think it's nobody's business but your own.

I found it really touching, working with the elderly.
Holding their hands, and seeing wedding rings, worn thin..
It makes me quite choked up, how lovely that people keep them on..

I wear my mums wedding ring and never take it off. If I have an operation they have to tape over it. I remember the Christmas my dad gave it to mum as they couldn't afford one before that. That was in 1962. It's very precious to me.

Ian only recently widowed and I have no intention of not wearing my ring in fact I’ve also worn my husbands ring since the day he died. It’s been a comfort to feel it on my hand.

I can't imagine why anyone would think you shouldn't be wearing your ring if you wore it when your husband was alive. Wear it with pride.

I don't wear mine but only because it irritates my finger - all rings do.

I think you should do as you please. Many widows continue to wear their wedding and engagement rings and I expect just as many choose not to wear them. It is a personal choice.

In the years to come, if you wish to meet someone else, I suppose there is the argument that wearing a wedding ring indicates you are not free. Maybe you will wish to meet someone else and maybe you will not wish to do this.

The whole matter is up to you entirely.

I still wear mine. It will be twelve years in January since my beloved husband died very suddenly. I would never dream of taking my rings off.

I've just been thinking about the several widows among my circle of friends and, so far as I can recall, they all continue to wear their rings. Whyever not? It seems quite "normal" to me.
After my mom died, my dad wore her wedding ring on his little finger for the rest of his life.

My husband died just over 2 years ago, I still wear both my wedding ring and eternity ring, and engagement ring on special occasions. Can`t wear hubby`s, as he never had a ring.

I agree ??

Just chiming in to say I agree with everyone here.
All my life I have noticed beautiful wedding rings and engagement rings being worn by widows.
It is a perfectly normal thing to do.

You have all replied exactly as I hoped you would but I did doubt myself briefly. Yes it was a younger person who mentioned it. Thank you all for replying