Said goodbye to Dad

Condolences.

minxie it matters little how old we get, our dads are still so very special, and when they leave us we rightly feel lost and alone. I will continue to miss mine every day of my life.

seacliff I too have 'everyday' diaries, right up to 2 days before he died and they comfort me.

Lovely to have happy memoires of parents, I still miss mine after all these years and think of them every day .

Condolences Minxie ..
Jan321, so sorry. My husband left for another woman and married her. For years he did not want to know our children. It was 'meet me at McDonald's ', never invited them to his house. Now that he is in his 70s he's trying to build a relationship with them....my daughter has fallen for it, but the boys cannot forget how he ignored them in the early days of separation. Mind you, she was always a daddy's girl.

Sad for you but be happy you had a good dad . I do not have a single happy memory of mine .

I'm sorry for your loss.

Condolences for your loss

So srry for your loss .Ilost my dad twenty years ago he was my dad my freind we did alot to gether we fished for years it will get better in time. For comfort i hung his walking stick from a tree branch in the garden .we do things like that for comfort take care

My dad has just died at the age of 88, our relationship was not a typical one though. During my teenage years he left our family for another in Wales. Only when his wife died did contact me again. Our relationship never really recovered. Does anyone else have this type of bereavement from an estranged parent?

My mother asked us to clear out dads things just days after he died.She said she couldn't bear to see them in the bedroom so my sister and I did it.It was hard but we found all sorts of things that made us laugh and see life differently .
Like my mother I dont place any importance on "things" and didn't keep any of his belongings ,I do have a list of plants and instructions on how to plant and grow and care for them that he wrote for me when I got married 44 years ago.I still use it .He had the most beautiful handwriting .

minxie

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That birthday book is very special minxie. I’m so sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself, please don’t think you have to ‘be’ any particular way. My Dad died 18 years ago yesterday, I’m so pleased I kept things that were special to him.

. Take one day at a time, minxie. It's still raw at the moment, but it will become easier with time. I like what Nonnie has quoted. It's so very true.

Something I stole from here (think it was Maw) 'To live in the hearts of those we leave behind is not to die' It moved me.

It's 8 years now since my dad died. His funeral was so nice with so much love shown from all those who attended. My son did the eulogy and everyone applauded.

Take time to grieve - it's lovely you have his diaries to look back on.

Sometimes you only get to see some aspects of a loved one after they die. I loved listening to stories about my Dad when he was young, told by his old friends, at his funeral.

How lovely for you that you have that birthday book with his poems, Minxie.

Thank you Ladies. I found his 90th birthday book and he wrote some lovely poetry about my late Mum and then about how wonderful his party was and this was from a man who didn’t show his feelings much

So sorry for your loss. I hope you will soon be able to enjoy remembering the good times.

My lovely dad died 2 years ago a few weeks after my 60 th birthday tea party. He decided to make a little speech and someone recorded it, I havent yet been able to watch or listen to it. Funnily enough it seems to get harder to persuade myself

Condolences, it’s early days please be kind to yourself. Grief is hard to bare.