Said goodbye to Dad

Oh I know how you feel, so sorry.

I still feel sad not to have my dear Dad, it is 8 years now. Dad left some diaries (not private, just every day stuff) and I took comfort from reading them for quite a few months after.

I'm glad the funeral went well and you all saw how much he was loved. Be kind to yourself, he is still with you in your heart x

minxie, I am so very sorry ,I felt so lost when my father died. I send you hugs x

So sorry minxie. Enjoy your memories

Sending you my love too, Minxie. I know it's hard, but it will get easier as you go along.

It's good that you have his diaries, they will help you feel that he is still close. My Dad passed away in the early 1990's and I have a gardening diary he kept one year. I get it out and read it every now and then - it's mostly just lists of jobs he had to do in the garden and a record of what he had planted (I can hear his voice when I read the plant names), but bang in the middle of it all he describes the night we all gathered together for my birthday! I will never part with it.

Take things slowly and take it easy on yourself. I hope you can find comfort in your Dad's writings xx

Condolences, it’s early days please be kind to yourself. Grief is hard to bare.

My lovely dad died 2 years ago a few weeks after my 60 th birthday tea party. He decided to make a little speech and someone recorded it, I havent yet been able to watch or listen to it. Funnily enough it seems to get harder to persuade myself

So sorry for your loss. I hope you will soon be able to enjoy remembering the good times.

Thank you Ladies. I found his 90th birthday book and he wrote some lovely poetry about my late Mum and then about how wonderful his party was and this was from a man who didn’t show his feelings much

Sometimes you only get to see some aspects of a loved one after they die. I loved listening to stories about my Dad when he was young, told by his old friends, at his funeral.

How lovely for you that you have that birthday book with his poems, Minxie.

It's 8 years now since my dad died. His funeral was so nice with so much love shown from all those who attended. My son did the eulogy and everyone applauded.

Take time to grieve - it's lovely you have his diaries to look back on.

Something I stole from here (think it was Maw) 'To live in the hearts of those we leave behind is not to die' It moved me.

. Take one day at a time, minxie. It's still raw at the moment, but it will become easier with time. I like what Nonnie has quoted. It's so very true.

That birthday book is very special minxie. I’m so sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself, please don’t think you have to ‘be’ any particular way. My Dad died 18 years ago yesterday, I’m so pleased I kept things that were special to him.

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My mother asked us to clear out dads things just days after he died.She said she couldn't bear to see them in the bedroom so my sister and I did it.It was hard but we found all sorts of things that made us laugh and see life differently .
Like my mother I dont place any importance on "things" and didn't keep any of his belongings ,I do have a list of plants and instructions on how to plant and grow and care for them that he wrote for me when I got married 44 years ago.I still use it .He had the most beautiful handwriting .

My dad has just died at the age of 88, our relationship was not a typical one though. During my teenage years he left our family for another in Wales. Only when his wife died did contact me again. Our relationship never really recovered. Does anyone else have this type of bereavement from an estranged parent?

So srry for your loss .Ilost my dad twenty years ago he was my dad my freind we did alot to gether we fished for years it will get better in time. For comfort i hung his walking stick from a tree branch in the garden .we do things like that for comfort take care

Condolences for your loss