Daughter

Today I have received a letter from my estranged SIL informing me that he has scattered my daughter's ashes in accordance with her Will.on 24th April. Our grandchildren aged 7 and 9 attended the ceremony reading their own Eulogy and choosing a song from Jess Glynne. He has sent photos and instructions of the location they have been scattered in our local woods. I know I should be grateful that he has informed me of this but as the letter was written as if from a Solicitor (very formal). I feel he has only informed me because I was an Executor of her Will and he is duty bound to inform me. Despite this I now feel she has come 'home' as he is now living some 3 hours away from us and it is some comfort to know she is nearby. There is a lot of animosity between us because of our separation from our grandchildren but I would think it may be a good idea to just say 'thank you and to ask him to pass on our love and thoughts to our grandchildren. It seems like closure to us and he has made a life with our grandchildren without us. Should we now just not try to contact him at all and leave them to get on with their lives and us with ours. It breaks our hearts every single day not to see or talk to them We have no contact with them, no address but we may be able to find out an e-mail address so that I could just say 'thank you and send our love. After all he could have left us in the dark and not tell us and we would have been none the wiser. I am asking GNs really should I just move on with our lives because it is causing us so much pain to hope we will ever see them again. Sorry for the long thread. Over to you please.