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Bereavement

DD's beautiful funeral.

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merlotgran Fri 07-Jun-19 11:46:41

Yesterday we laid our precious daughter to rest in a woodland cemetery about half an hour away. She didn't want a religious ceremony but it was spiritual in every way.

Despite a worrying weather forecast at the beginning of the week, there was hardly a cloud in the bluest of skies and a gentle breeze kept us cool as we walked across the wildflower meadow following the hearse. The only sound was birdsong. DH whispered, 'stone curlews' as I held on to my emotions - and him.

The service was simple and comforting. Her elder son gave a eulogy, DD2 read a personal tribute and her younger son read the beautiful poem, 'I am standing upon the seashore' by Henry van Dyke,' which I discovered on another thread on Gransnet. After the committal we listened to George Harrison's 'All Things Must Pass' cleverly provided by DSil via his iPhone and blue tooth speaker.

After the funeral tea I dismantled the beautifully arranged casket spray and made individual posies for guests to take home. There's a rule at the burial ground that all floral tributes must be cleared away after five days and I couldn't bear the thought of having to return to the sight of dead flowers. DD would have approved of my last minute 'brainwave.'

So, today I'm exhausted, relieved that it all went so well and sad because everyone has gone home but we both need to rest now. The last four months have drained us, physically and emotionally.

I am going to miss her so much.

GrandmaMoira Fri 07-Jun-19 18:44:02

Thinking of you and your family.

dustyangel Fri 07-Jun-19 18:37:00

flowersxx

nanaK54 Fri 07-Jun-19 17:44:36

Sending kindest thoughts to you and your family flowers

Antonia Fri 07-Jun-19 17:19:37

My heart goes out to you Merlot Please be very kind to yourself and I hope you can eventually find some sense of peace. flowers

Eglantine21 Fri 07-Jun-19 17:19:31

It sounds a most beautiful place, trees, wild flowers and the curlew’s cry.

I hope it can give you some comfort ?

Day6 Fri 07-Jun-19 17:01:31

merlot what a lovely farewell you gave your daughter. It sounds quite beautiful and perfect, if there is such a thing as a perfect funeral service. Thinking of you all now, in the calm after the storm, when the pain of such awful loss can hit home once again. Wishing you all strength.

Luckygirl Fri 07-Jun-19 16:56:45

It is so heartening to hear of a family who have been able to say goodbye to their loved one in just the right way. How wonderful that everyone was able to take home some flowers - what a splendid brainwave. I salute you and send loving wishes. flowers

Harris27 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:56:08

I'm thinking of you and your post is beautiful. You will miss your daughter I hope your pain eases a little in time. Please accept virtual hugs thinking of you merlot. Xx

grannysyb Fri 07-Jun-19 16:53:05

Such a lovely description of a very sad but beautiful ceremony, I hope it brings you a bit of comfort. Thinking of you and yours.

ffinnochio Fri 07-Jun-19 16:51:11

Merlot Such a deeply tender and touching post of your daughter’s funeral. Uplifting with the depth of loss all rolled into one.
Thank you. flowers

Brilliant ‘brainwave’. ?

KatyK Fri 07-Jun-19 16:41:35

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M0nica Fri 07-Jun-19 16:30:27

Merlot, to have such good memories of such a sad occasion, is the best you can hope for at the moment flowers

janeainsworth Fri 07-Jun-19 16:28:31

Merlot I’m struggling to find the right words but I’m in awe of the calm bravery you have shown over the last few months, being the rock for your DD as well as your DH and your grandsons.
I hope in the months and years ahead, even though she has gone from this life, you’ll be able to feel your daughter’s spirit and presence by your side. xx

Jane10 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:17:10

What a wonderful send off you gave your daughter Merlotgran. I looked up that poem about the ship that you mentioned and couldn't help tearing up. So beautiful. You did your daughter proud.
Now for the next page in the book of life. I wish you all the very best. ❤️

kittylester Fri 07-Jun-19 15:58:14

Thank you for telling us, merlot. It sounds a wonderful way to say goodbye to your beautiful daughter. And, something to hold onto as you adjust.

tinaf1 Fri 07-Jun-19 15:34:56

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GrannyGravy13 Fri 07-Jun-19 15:34:55

Bless you and your family Merlot??

EllanVannin Fri 07-Jun-19 15:31:16

Now resting in the most beautiful surrounds x At Peace.
Thoughts go to you, Merlot and your family.x

Sar53 Fri 07-Jun-19 15:25:16

Love to you all flowers xx

Framilode Fri 07-Jun-19 15:24:51

That was so beautiful and moving Merlot. What a wonderful and peaceful place to be able to visit.xxx

annsixty Fri 07-Jun-19 15:20:48

XX flowers for you all

Smileless2012 Fri 07-Jun-19 15:05:22

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BlueBelle Fri 07-Jun-19 15:04:26

Oh Merlot that was so very sad and wonderful at the same time
I m so very sorry to read your post but a beautiful tribute to her
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luluaugust Fri 07-Jun-19 14:59:40

Merlot x

Lindylou51 Fri 07-Jun-19 14:50:10

Very moving to read about your dear girl's funeral. Thank you for finding to strength to share your thoughts with us all. I hope you and your loved ones find peace in the months to come.