Merlot I hope that describing a funeral as beautiful comes across in the right way. From the birdsong, the meadow and your brilliant idea with the flowers, it sounds as though it was as perfect as it was possible to be. Thank you for posting this thread.
What a beautiful tribute to your beautiful girl with wild flowers and birdsong, surrounded by people who loved her. Rest and get your strength back. She has left her lovely children for you to care for and love and who will love you. xx
Merlot gran , I have been following but not commenting on your sad journey, I was moved to tears reading your post about your beautiful daughters funeral, I cannot imagine how you must be feeling , Your daughter is now at peace , free from pain, she was surrounded by your love, I hope you and your family and daughters family can find solitude and rest and begin the process of grief, Sending love,
Merlot what a moving description, I couldn’t read it with dry eyes.You managed to get through it and even find some crumbs of comfort from it.I hope you all find the strength to carry on and help each other as a family.
Sounds like you gave her the send off she would have liked. I think you will get comfort from this in due course. I won't go into detail but we felt we gave DS the right funeral too and now, a couple of years later we take some comfort from it.
My word. That was both a beautiful and emotional post. I know it is a short while since you brought your DD home to tend her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God Bless
Merlot thank you for finding the strength to post that lovely tribute to your daughter. I can only imagine how much you will miss her - and how I would feel in your place if it was my daughter. My heart goes out to you.??
Yesterday we laid our precious daughter to rest in a woodland cemetery about half an hour away. She didn't want a religious ceremony but it was spiritual in every way.
Despite a worrying weather forecast at the beginning of the week, there was hardly a cloud in the bluest of skies and a gentle breeze kept us cool as we walked across the wildflower meadow following the hearse. The only sound was birdsong. DH whispered, 'stone curlews' as I held on to my emotions - and him.
The service was simple and comforting. Her elder son gave a eulogy, DD2 read a personal tribute and her younger son read the beautiful poem, 'I am standing upon the seashore' by Henry van Dyke,' which I discovered on another thread on Gransnet. After the committal we listened to George Harrison's 'All Things Must Pass' cleverly provided by DSil via his iPhone and blue tooth speaker.
After the funeral tea I dismantled the beautifully arranged casket spray and made individual posies for guests to take home. There's a rule at the burial ground that all floral tributes must be cleared away after five days and I couldn't bear the thought of having to return to the sight of dead flowers. DD would have approved of my last minute 'brainwave.'
So, today I'm exhausted, relieved that it all went so well and sad because everyone has gone home but we both need to rest now. The last four months have drained us, physically and emotionally.