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DD's beautiful funeral.

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merlotgran Fri 07-Jun-19 11:46:41

Yesterday we laid our precious daughter to rest in a woodland cemetery about half an hour away. She didn't want a religious ceremony but it was spiritual in every way.

Despite a worrying weather forecast at the beginning of the week, there was hardly a cloud in the bluest of skies and a gentle breeze kept us cool as we walked across the wildflower meadow following the hearse. The only sound was birdsong. DH whispered, 'stone curlews' as I held on to my emotions - and him.

The service was simple and comforting. Her elder son gave a eulogy, DD2 read a personal tribute and her younger son read the beautiful poem, 'I am standing upon the seashore' by Henry van Dyke,' which I discovered on another thread on Gransnet. After the committal we listened to George Harrison's 'All Things Must Pass' cleverly provided by DSil via his iPhone and blue tooth speaker.

After the funeral tea I dismantled the beautifully arranged casket spray and made individual posies for guests to take home. There's a rule at the burial ground that all floral tributes must be cleared away after five days and I couldn't bear the thought of having to return to the sight of dead flowers. DD would have approved of my last minute 'brainwave.'

So, today I'm exhausted, relieved that it all went so well and sad because everyone has gone home but we both need to rest now. The last four months have drained us, physically and emotionally.

I am going to miss her so much.

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Lyndiloo Mon 17-Jun-19 03:18:19

What a hard thing to do. Sending you love. X

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Grandma2213 Mon 17-Jun-19 02:20:05

flowers xx

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GabriellaG54 Sun 16-Jun-19 21:53:05

Words are not enough
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So sorry

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Nannyfaraway Tue 11-Jun-19 11:07:31

Merlot thank you for sharing. I haven't been a member of Gransnet for very long. But as I've read your posts have got to know you a bit and thst your are a very brave lady.
My thoughts and.prayers are with you and your family

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bellarosie Tue 11-Jun-19 10:46:42

With tears in my eyes I send you my sincerest thoughts and prayers. What a brave lady you are. Please remember that so many of us are thinking of you.

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Lona Mon 10-Jun-19 23:26:42

A beautiful resting place merlot ?

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Luckygirl Mon 10-Jun-19 22:33:29

It is a lovely place for your DD to be laid to rest. flowers

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Faye Mon 10-Jun-19 21:58:07

You described your daughter’s funeral beautifully Merlot, it must have been so hard for you to say goodbye. Your heart must be breaking. flowers

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Antonia Mon 10-Jun-19 20:02:37

Merlot such a beautiful and peaceful setting. Much love to you and your family.flowers

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debohunXL5 Mon 10-Jun-19 19:59:09

How beautiful, it is how it should be. Condolences to you and yours. flowers

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Yiayia4 Sun 09-Jun-19 14:57:11

Beautiful place to rest for ever X

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kittylester Sun 09-Jun-19 14:38:22

A lovely place to lie for eternity, merlot.

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Grandmashe43 Sun 09-Jun-19 12:10:38

So peaceful and graceful, xxxxx

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soop Sun 09-Jun-19 11:43:14

Merlot a beautiful final resting place. A very moving tribute. flowers sunshine x

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Gonegirl Sun 09-Jun-19 11:21:31

Looks beautiful merlot.

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EllenT Sun 09-Jun-19 10:43:56

flowers x

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Maggiemaybe Sun 09-Jun-19 10:41:23

Beautiful, merlot. flowers

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Bellasnana Sun 09-Jun-19 09:51:57

merlotgran ?

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merlotgran Sun 09-Jun-19 09:36:34
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My niece has just sent me this photo. DD's grave is near the top, just below the level of trees. A friend's husband is buried on the same level. There couldn't be a more peaceful setting.

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POGS Sun 09-Jun-19 09:26:10

flowers

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Brunette10 Sun 09-Jun-19 08:06:32

So beautiful and touching Merlot. Words cannot say enough, thank you so much for sharing this with us all and hope it gives you some comfort. flowers

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Blinko Sun 09-Jun-19 08:03:42

Thank you Merlot for sharing your daughter's story with us. Such a beautiful place for her to rest now. Sending warm wishes to you and your family flowers

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Maggiemaybe Sun 09-Jun-19 07:44:48

Your post was so touching, Merlot. My thoughts are with you. thanks

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NotAGran55 Sun 09-Jun-19 06:37:41

A beautiful tribute x your daughter would be so proud of you all for her wonderful service .

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BradfordLass72 Sun 09-Jun-19 02:20:04

What a very moving tribute Merlot and how beautiful it must have been.

I hadn't heard of the George Harrison song and have just printed part of it out to put in the envelope containing my own funeral arrangements. So many thanks for those inspiring words as well, I am sure they will comfort my son.

With much love to you, DH and your family.

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