My husbands sister passed away at quite a young age about 12 years ago. Very sad, she was a lovely person, she had 2 children now in their 40s. We were never that close to her family, but got on OK when we met at family gatherings. Her husband had many siblings and she seemed closer to his side of the family.
After her death I used to see her son quite often when I went into the place where he worked, we would have a pleasant enough chat. My husband used to occasionally see her husband (his brother in law) & they got on OK.
This week we heard via my stepson that my brother in law had died, a friend of his had seen it on Facebook. Someone had asked my stepson if we knew about this as they didn’t want us to find out from Facebook. Neither my husband or myself are on Facebook.
My stepson showed us the Facebook post & it is a message thanking people for their messages of condolence & giving information about the funeral.
I checked on the funeral director’s website & my brother in law died 10 days ago, it said the funeral service was private - so no details were given even though it is on Facebook.
My husband & myself are both upset to hear of this death obviously, but also upset that no one has bothered to inform us. We only spoke to the deceased a couple of weeks ago & there has been no ill feeling between us and his children.
I find this strange that my nephew has not been in touch, he knows our phone numbers & our address & my husband is the only surviving member of his mother’s family.