This is the 17th Christmas since my youngest child died at the age of 25 yrs. Still miss him so much - although am very fortunate as I have five other children.
We all talk about him almost every time we meet up. Raise a glass to him on big family occasions, all of us have photos of him in our homes. (When I moved recently, the first photograph I put up in my new home was his). Only one of my g.children had been born when he died, (and he was a baby), but all them know so much about their Uncle G.
We stopped doing anything on the anniversary of his death, instead celebrate each year on his birthday. No graveyards for any of us - he was cremated and ashes just scattered in my old garden. Only want to remember his life - not his death. His colleagues did arrange for a bench to be put in the park near where he worked and we chose the wording of the plaque on it - and any of the family in that part of London still goes there and put a rose on this for him,.
The need to talk about him is still there, and we do.
Kathsue,do you have any other family who remembers your daughter? they are the ones to talk to. You are doing right by your g.son to let him know about his Mum - but visiting graves is not necessary at all. Could you make up a lovely photo album of your daughter to give to your g.son so he has this for the future?
There are good days and bad days, no matter how long it is since someone died. In our modern society nothing is worse than losing a child - it is all so wrong - I can remember saying (stupidly) to the policeman who came to tell us of his death that 'He can't be dead, I don't have any funeral arrangements for my children!!'.
If there are no close family or friends who have memories of your daughter, then do tell us on here all about her and we would be delighted to hear about her.