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Bereavement

The joy has gone!

(67 Posts)
mande Tue 24-Dec-19 23:29:42

My wonderful friend was killed in a car accident on the motorway yesterday evening. We think she had become confused on the roundabout and went down the exit slipway into oncoming traffic. I am absolutely devastated.
Her body was released this evening and I was too afraid of driving to the wake to see her and be with her family. My own ability to see and drive at night is failing. My son, thank god, drove me there.
Everything gets so hard the older we get. And grief and loss compound the fears.

computor Wed 25-Dec-19 10:36:29

so sorry for your loss ,our thoughts are with you .take care

Dianehillbilly1957 Wed 25-Dec-19 10:35:33

Terribly sorry for you all.
She'll live on in your memories. Treasure them..✨

MadeInYorkshire Wed 25-Dec-19 10:34:37

So very sorry to hear that, sending hugs xx

Madgran77 Wed 25-Dec-19 10:25:57

Mande flowers

mande Wed 25-Dec-19 10:04:47

patricia1958 That’s exactly what I will focus on. Thank god for good people in this world. Thank you all.

patricia1958 Wed 25-Dec-19 10:01:08

Think about all the good times fun and laughter you shared that nobody else did

Bernieellen Wed 25-Dec-19 10:00:41

So sorry for such a sad loss. You are in my prayers.

patricia1958 Wed 25-Dec-19 09:58:46

Think of all the good times you have had and all the fun and laughdered you shared that nobody else did

McGilchrist41 Wed 25-Dec-19 09:38:39

So sorry. I have just seen it reported on tv. A loss at any time of the year is devastating but at Christmas it is just terrible.

Hm999 Wed 25-Dec-19 09:35:08

So sorry for you and her family. Yes, we must all take extra care with concentration in this wet weather or at night, especially if we are used to being good drivers (not me btw!)

Teetime Wed 25-Dec-19 09:32:51

mande I am so sorry, how very sad for you. flowers

Mauriherb Wed 25-Dec-19 09:32:36

So sorry to hear this, I send you love xx

CoronadoGal Wed 25-Dec-19 09:27:18

Such a sad loss. ?Thinking of you at this very sad time.

Bobdoesit Wed 25-Dec-19 09:16:21

I'm so sorry. flowers

Forestflame Wed 25-Dec-19 09:15:51

Mande, so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you hugs and Prayers. XX

mande Wed 25-Dec-19 08:55:32

Thank you all for your very kind words. It has helped me to bear the pain.
She was a wonderful person, humble, kind, and helped so many who were in despair. One time I was lost and she showed me a better way and I would not be the person I am today if it had not been for her. I will be forever grateful to her and I will carry her with me always because of that.
She showed me (and many others) how to be grateful for what I had. In a world where there is so much strife we are lucky to have people like her. And I know Gransnet is full of people like that and for that too I am grateful. Thank you.

Juicylucy Wed 25-Dec-19 08:51:04

How sad for you and her family. Sending love and take care of yourself.flowers

lavenderzen Wed 25-Dec-19 08:46:25

I am so sorry Mande flowers

polnan Wed 25-Dec-19 08:41:52

so sorry to see this Mande.... as others have said ,,no words,
but can`t read this and not pray for you all... peace.... it does come... I promise... lots of prayers, hugs,, love , good thoughts sent to you all and everyone

GinJeannie Wed 25-Dec-19 08:32:01

There are no words......treasure your memories of a wonderful friendship, nothing can erase those. thinking of you and others in a similar situation at this emotional ice of year.

dragonfly46 Wed 25-Dec-19 08:25:53

How dreadful for you and her family. My heart goes out to you.

Mollygo Wed 25-Dec-19 08:21:50

So sorry to hear this. It’s bad at any time of year but particularly now. Deepest condolences to you and her family.

mande Wed 25-Dec-19 07:43:28

Thank you all so much. I am grief-stricken as are her family. But she lives on in all of us and I am so glad and grateful that she has been, and continues to be, part of my life.

Nortsat46 Wed 25-Dec-19 07:36:12

How dreadful for her family and for you.
Sincere condolences.
Try to rest and take things easy.
Let those who love you, look after you. ?

ladymuck Wed 25-Dec-19 07:09:03

Bad enough at any time of year, but particularly so at Christmas. My sympathy.