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The joy has gone!

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mande Tue 24-Dec-19 23:29:42

My wonderful friend was killed in a car accident on the motorway yesterday evening. We think she had become confused on the roundabout and went down the exit slipway into oncoming traffic. I am absolutely devastated.
Her body was released this evening and I was too afraid of driving to the wake to see her and be with her family. My own ability to see and drive at night is failing. My son, thank god, drove me there.
Everything gets so hard the older we get. And grief and loss compound the fears.

phoenix Tue 24-Dec-19 23:37:18


Nico97 Tue 24-Dec-19 23:47:52

There's nothing anyone can say and I'm so sorry flowers

jacq10 Tue 24-Dec-19 23:48:38

So sad for you and her family. A sudden loss like that is hard to bear at any time of year. A 16yr old lad was killed in a road accident near here last week. flowers

Buffybee Tue 24-Dec-19 23:48:55

I really don't know what to say mande but I couldn't just read your thread and not post.
You are obviously devastated as will be your friend's family, so all I can do is to offer my condolences and flowers

Oopsminty Tue 24-Dec-19 23:50:45

How terribly sad for you

maddyone Tue 24-Dec-19 23:59:42

How awful for you, and just before Christmas too. I’m so sorry. thanks

BlueSapphire Wed 25-Dec-19 00:05:07

I am so sorry, so sad especially at this time of year.

QuaintIrene Wed 25-Dec-19 00:39:43

Terrible. No words, I am so sorry 💐

SueDonim Wed 25-Dec-19 00:46:30

I’m so sorry, Mande. flowers

B9exchange Wed 25-Dec-19 00:47:32

How absolutely dreadful, I can't think of anything I could offer that would give any comfort, but just had to post something. Everyone's thoughts are with you, I am sure.

Claudiaclaws Wed 25-Dec-19 00:52:39

I am so so sorry to here of the death of your friend.
I'm quite sure that all of us on Gransnet are thinking of you.

Ginny42 Wed 25-Dec-19 00:54:11

You were her true friend in life and she knew you treasured her friendship. When the shock subsides you will remember her and smile at some of the things you did and the times you had. flowers

morethan2 Wed 25-Dec-19 06:50:57

Oh I’m so very sorry . Condolences on the loss of you dear friend.

cornergran Wed 25-Dec-19 06:56:26

I’m so sorry mande. flowers.

SilverDarlings12 Wed 25-Dec-19 07:06:55

So sorry to read about your Wonderful friend, Mande +

ladymuck Wed 25-Dec-19 07:09:03

Bad enough at any time of year, but particularly so at Christmas. My sympathy.

Nortsat46 Wed 25-Dec-19 07:36:12

How dreadful for her family and for you.
Sincere condolences.
Try to rest and take things easy.
Let those who love you, look after you. 💐

mande Wed 25-Dec-19 07:43:28

Thank you all so much. I am grief-stricken as are her family. But she lives on in all of us and I am so glad and grateful that she has been, and continues to be, part of my life.

Mollygo Wed 25-Dec-19 08:21:50

So sorry to hear this. It’s bad at any time of year but particularly now. Deepest condolences to you and her family.

dragonfly46 Wed 25-Dec-19 08:25:53

How dreadful for you and her family. My heart goes out to you.

GinJeannie Wed 25-Dec-19 08:32:01

There are no words......treasure your memories of a wonderful friendship, nothing can erase those. thinking of you and others in a similar situation at this emotional ice of year.

polnan Wed 25-Dec-19 08:41:52

so sorry to see this Mande.... as others have said ,,no words,
but can`t read this and not pray for you all... peace.... it does come... I promise... lots of prayers, hugs,, love , good thoughts sent to you all and everyone

lavenderzen Wed 25-Dec-19 08:46:25

I am so sorry Mande flowers

Juicylucy Wed 25-Dec-19 08:51:04

How sad for you and her family. Sending love and take care of