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Bereavement

Mr Scribbles

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Scribbles Tue 21-Jan-20 22:14:15

Many kind GNers have expressed their love and concern and said prayers for my OH after I told on the "Prayer" thread of his being hit by a car and seriously injured.

Sadly, there is no good news to report. Despite the skill and care of the dedicated team in ICU at Queens Medical Centre, his injuries proved insurmountable and the decision was made, with the full and informed support of Daughter and me, to withdraw life support.

I held his hand, that loving hand, as he died and know that we were right to let him suffer no further pain. But now I have to face a future without my best friend at my side and have no idea if or how I will cope.

The awfulness is compounded by the requirement for a Home Office post mortem which means it will be at least another week before we can have the death certificate and begin the turgid process of registering the death, notifying all and sundry bureaucratic bodies and arranging a funeral.

I know that many of you have trod this road before me and so will understand the lonely, lonely prospect of waking every day without him. Daughter, friends, neighbours, even the police are all wonderfully kind but nothing will ever make up for knowing that loving, gentle and steadfast man is gone forever and I will never hear his voice again.
Farewell, my darling.

vena11 Wed 22-Jan-20 06:43:45

I am so sorryflowers

lemongrove Wed 22-Jan-20 06:30:23

Oh Scribbles I am so sorry to hear this awful news,I had no idea as haven’t looked at the prayer thread recently so didn’t hear of his accident.
What a tragic loss for you.flowersHeartfelt condolences from me too.

GranEd Wed 22-Jan-20 06:27:48

So sorry. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time. xx ?

kittylester Wed 22-Jan-20 06:12:54

There are no words scribbles, but I have been thinking about you. Please use gn if it helps.

gillybob Wed 22-Jan-20 04:25:04

So very sorry to hear your sad news Scribbles I had no idea your DH was on life support . My own DH spent almost 3 months on LS at the end of 2019 where life really does just hang by a thread. You absolutely right about the dedication of the ICU staff, I’m just sorry that your DH’s injuries were so severe they were unable to save him.

Thinking of you and your family and wishing you much strength over the coming weeks, you must be exhausted .

flowers xx

grannyqueenie Wed 22-Jan-20 00:41:00

That’s very sad news for you Scribbles, not the way you hoped things would go. Thinking of you in these early days. flowers

V3ra Tue 21-Jan-20 23:59:28

Heartbreaking news for all your family. So sad x

Kalu Tue 21-Jan-20 23:57:19

My heart goes out to you Scribbles and can only imagine the sadness you are going through. Wishing you strength for the days ahead and hope you have loving support around you ?

Remember you having many friends here to who will always lend support too. X

Dollymac Tue 21-Jan-20 23:56:38

Scribbles, I didn't see your previous post, I am so sorry to hear your very sad news
Please know that I am thinking about you and your family and you all have my very best wishes at this very sad time
Take the very best care of yourselves
This post is sent with much love ?

SueDonim Tue 21-Jan-20 23:50:33

I wasn’t aware of your circumstances, Scribbles but I am so very sorry you have lost your beloved husband and in such a dreadful manner. My heart goes out to you. flowers

TwiceAsNice Tue 21-Jan-20 23:43:37

So sorry for you. May you have the strength to get through and I hope you and your daughter can support each other.

Mapleleaf Tue 21-Jan-20 23:33:18

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Callistemon Tue 21-Jan-20 23:20:32

I am so sorry to hear your sad news Scribbles and send you my condolences at the loss of your beloved husband.
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TrendyNannie6 Tue 21-Jan-20 23:18:20

So sorry to hear this

52bright Tue 21-Jan-20 23:14:53

Heart felt condolences Scribbles. A terrible shock to lose your husband in this sudden way. Thinking of you and your daughter flowers

Bellanonna Tue 21-Jan-20 23:07:08

Oh, I felt so sad for you reading that Scribbles. You have had little time to prepare for this, given the nature of your husband’s death and that makes it really hard for you. I’m so sorry.

Marydoll Tue 21-Jan-20 23:02:17

My heartfelt condolences, Scribbles.?

KatyK Tue 21-Jan-20 22:54:05

So sorry flowers

Chewbacca Tue 21-Jan-20 22:42:54

I'm so very sorry to hear this Scribbles, please accept my deepest condolences and sympathy for the loss of your husband. flowers

MawB Tue 21-Jan-20 22:42:14

My heart goes out to you and all your family.
You are setting out on a long hard road for which nothing can prepare you.
I hope your family and friends will support you as best they can and that the love you had together will comfort you in the time to come.
I could write my own book on bereavement but we are each of us different and we each have our own ways of putting one foot in front of the other. I just know that to lose your life’s partner is , for me, like an amputation - you learn to limp on, but you never feel whole againflowersflowers
(I hope this is legible xxx)

annsixty Tue 21-Jan-20 22:36:24

So sad for you and send sincere condolences.
I suffered the same loss 9 months ago so can imagine your feelings and those of your D.

BlueSapphire Tue 21-Jan-20 22:34:46

Oh my goodness, I didn't see your previous post. I am so sorry to hear your sad news, and can only say that I am thinking of you, and the difficult decision you had to make, was I am sure the right one. The path ahead will be difficult, but there are many of us walking it, and I just hope we can all support each other.

CanadianGran Tue 21-Jan-20 22:33:36

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Please make use of all the shoulders offered for you to cry or lean upon.flowers

Squiffy Tue 21-Jan-20 22:33:28

I’m so sorry Scribbles flowers

maddyone Tue 21-Jan-20 22:32:36

I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss scribbles. flowers