Bureaucracy - a rant. (A bit long. Sorry)

You are certainly not being unreasonable or
Mrs. Unreasonable, far from it.

I'm pleased that at last things are moving forward and hope that there are no more hurdles for you to get overx

I'm sorry for your loss ..

So sorry for all the stress you are having to cope with on top of grieving for your dear husband.
Your comment about crying when the funeral director told you about collecting your OH brought me to tears. When my Mother died I was living many miles away and undergoing chemotherapy so all the arrangements had to be made by phone or post- so frustrating. When the funeral director phoned to say”we have got your Mum safe in our chapel of rest” it was both a comfort but upsetting at the same time and I too cried on hearing his words so I can understand how you feel. I do hope everything goes smoothly from now on.x

Really sorry for you and all the hoops you have had to jump through at a sad and devastating time for you all.

This is an ongoing nightmare for you Scribbles but I sincerely hope that you will find it easier to know your DH is “coming home” and that next week’s Good-bye will bring some peace of mind

That’s all so sad. I’m glad things are moving now but why must people endure such stress?

No, Scribbles YANBU.

At a time when people are grieving, have so much to sort out, why the bureaucracy should be so slow is astonishing. Nothing should be sent second class.

When DB died, the hospital doctor who signed the death certificate wrote down something different as cause of death than the actual diagnosis. That held everything up because they then decided there had to be a post-mortem when there should have been no need.

I'm glad everything is moving forward, a terrible time but it is made worse by inefficiency.

Thanks, everyone. I was starting to feel like Mrs Unreasonable.

An update: since I posted above, the coroner's officer rang to say that they've had no request for a second PM so they plan to release OH to my funeral director as soon as the green form for cremation is signed tomorrow.

I asked where are the interim certificates and he got all apologetic and said well, actually, er, sorry and all that but they weren't posted until yesterday. 2nd class. Nobody had any business saying it was Monday, he didn't authorise it, and so on, and on. In the end, I couldn't stop crying so it was difficult to rage at him.

Funeral director then rang to confirm they're collecting OH from Leicester on Friday morning. For some reason, that made me cry even harder. But things do seem to be moving at last.

Oh Scribbles, I feel so sorry for you as you are having to go through all this terrible stuff after losing your OH. Bureaucracy can be upsetting for anyone, but there is absolutely no excuse for what you have had to put up with from people who must be used to dealing with the newly bereaved and should know better .

Sending you [hugs] and

That’s just dreadful, Scribbles. As if you’re not suffering enough.

I hate that feeling of being just a very small and unimportant cog in a massive machine. It’s dehumanising.

By way of distraction for you, I recently tried to open an online savings account with a building society. I couldn’t do it because they needed to send me a PIN to activate. Which they send by post. Second class. For an online account. And when you do get the PIN you only have nine seconds to enter it into the online form otherwise it closes down and they have to send you another PIN!

Not unreasonable at all Scribbles I think it’s extremely poor that they hadn’t send the interim death certificate straight away and first class post or registered post.
Bureaucracy at it’s worst!
Sending you my best wishes that all will be straightened out soon.It’s bad enough to lose your DH in a traffic accident without shoddy and unfeeling officialdom making things worse.?