Struggling today....

Luckygirl for you.

? for all going through this pain - I don’t doubt there are times when you’re overwhelmed no matter when you lost your beloved x

Luckygirl your feelings are to be expected, it does ease, you
will laugh again.

Please be assured I so understand and with some hesitation I will say - my husband died 45 years ago next week , we were
married 8 years. Hold onto the time you had together, the joy
you shared, you will weep, you will feel lost allow yourself the
tears .

Sending you hugs and love x

Thinking of you Lucky

So sorry Luckygirl, big hugs xx I remember how terrible I felt on the lead up to my husband's first anniversary, five years for me in May. It's not just missing them, it's what they are missing, and I haven't kept up the memory book I started. It does become less painful, in time. Remember to be kind to yourself, you are doing very well, keep putting one foot in front of the other xx

Oh, Luckygirl, I can only send you cyber hugs. I'm on the same journey as you and find it helps to simply accept my own mood and feelings.
If you spend a day or days as a weepy heap - so what? As GG13 says, be gentle with yourself. There is no right or wrong about grief. Undoubtedly, it will be easier when we can once again be close to and hug our children and the friends who loved our husbands but, right now, it would be extraordinary if you weren't hurting on such a day. My thoughts and love are with you.

Sending a huge (((hug))) lucky. I'm sorry, I have no words to help but sending you love.

be gentle with yourself

Thinking of you. It is so difficult. It will, I promise you, become easier. It will never be the same, it will be different but it will be bearable. It is two years since my lovely husband collapsed and died. No warning and only in his early fifties. I miss him so much and would give anything for one more minute with him but I know I have moved on from where I was a year ago. My thoughts are with you.

Luckygirl, the first birthday, Christmas, anniversary etc. is always the worst. It's OK to be a useless, weepy soul whenever it strikes, so allow yourself to be.

I used to go for a long walk as I found that calmed me down and lifted my mood, whatever the weather or time of day.

It's perfectly alright to do nothing all day. It's not a day 'wasted' and you don't have to 'make yourself useful' - as my mother would say.

All I can say to reassure you is that the pain will ease over time - so have patience with yourself - and do be kind to yourself too!

Thinking of you

I wish I could tell you when, all I know is that it will and one day it wont feel so bad. In the meantime you are allowed your feelings and no day is wasted.