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Bereavement

Please hold me in your thoughts.

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merlotgran Wed 03-Mar-21 19:31:29

This morning I had to say goodbye to my wonderful DH who has battled heart failure and bladder cancer so very bravely. When he developed sepsis we knew the best thing was to bring him home from hospital so he could be at peace with us and his beloved JR Peggy at his side.

We couldn't have achieved this without Hospice at Home who went above and beyond to support us and make sure his final two weeks were spent with comfort and love.

I now have to come to terms with it all. It's not that I wasn't expecting it and I'm relieved his suffering is over but s many of you already know, it's going to be tough.

Gagagran Thu 04-Mar-21 09:57:19

Deepest sympathy and condolences to you Merlotgran. Wishing you strength to cope and rest when you can. flowers

Jaffacake2 Thu 04-Mar-21 09:55:14

Deepest sympathies for you x

Trisha57 Thu 04-Mar-21 09:50:41

So sorry to hear of your loss. You are in my thoughts. flowers

Luckygirl Thu 04-Mar-21 09:50:20

Thinking of you this morning merlot - you will I know have so much to sort out as well as being so sad. It is a challenging time and I am sending positive thoughts your way.

Auntieflo Thu 04-Mar-21 09:47:32

Merlotgran, I am so sorry to read of your sad loss.
Hope you will be able to get some sleep and rest . Sending loving thoughts to you and all your family.

honeyrose Thu 04-Mar-21 09:45:09

So sorry to hear your sad news Merlotgran. There are no words of comfort I can offer apart from to say that your dear husband will live forever in your heart and that his suffering is at an end. Sending lots of love and sincere condolences. thanks

eazybee Thu 04-Mar-21 09:38:13

I am so very sorry to hear of the death of your husband and the sorrow that will bring.

Nannagarra Thu 04-Mar-21 09:36:52

Sending my deepest sympathy Merlotgran. ?

Greyduster Thu 04-Mar-21 09:28:34

My sincerest condolences, Merlot. ?

Gwyneth Thu 04-Mar-21 09:26:24

My condolences on your very sad loss Merlot.

Anniebach Thu 04-Mar-21 09:24:36

Merlot my deepest sympathy x

GrannyLaine Thu 04-Mar-21 09:22:35

My heart goes out to you in your grief Merlot.

.... you are gone but thank you for all the soft, sweet things you have left behind..... in my home, in my head, in my heart
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aggie Thu 04-Mar-21 09:19:51

Condolences from my heart , OH died in hospital , but we were all visiting and I was holding his hand .
It is a help , I feel for those not allowed this privilege , I hope that your Dear one was at home is a consolation xxx

Mapleleaf Thu 04-Mar-21 09:13:16

I’m so sorry to read of your loss Merlogran and send you my deepest condolences. I read your post last night and tried to reply then but my iPad was sticking and wouldn’t send the message. I’m so glad that you have your family nearby to offer you their support and love and pleased that you were able to have your DH at home with you. I hope that will bring you comfort in the coming weeks and months.
Take care ?

Summerlove Thu 04-Mar-21 09:07:04

I’m so, incredibly, sorry

Bathsheba Thu 04-Mar-21 09:06:18

Oh merlot I am so sorry to read this. You have had more than your fair share of suffering in recent times, and my heart goes out to you. Best love to you and deepest condolences. flowers

farview Thu 04-Mar-21 09:04:26

Love and ((((hugs)))) ....God bless xx

harrigran Thu 04-Mar-21 09:03:15

My condolences to you merlotgran flowers
I hope you can find comfort in memories of happier times.

Witzend Thu 04-Mar-21 08:59:28

Oh,*MerlotGran*, heartfelt sympathy. ??

Shrub Thu 04-Mar-21 08:47:46

I’m so sorry to read your sad news Merlot, take care of yourself. flowers

spottybook Thu 04-Mar-21 08:45:12

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Scribbles Thu 04-Mar-21 08:21:13

My deepest sympathy to you, merlot. Be gentle with yourself and lean on your friends and family when you need to. There will be dark days ahead but, gradually, the light will return and when things seem too bleak to bear, support can come from unexpected sources.
May the memories of the love you shared sustain you through the days ahead. (((Hugs)))

Parsley3 Thu 04-Mar-21 08:18:25

My sincere condolences merlotgran. Take good care of yourself. ?

Grammaretto Thu 04-Mar-21 08:13:26

So sorry to read your news just now.
You have lost your life partner and nothing can replace him.

Accept all the help you are offered but don't feel you need to do everything at once. Listen to advice but don't necessarily take it.

I lost my DH 3 months ago and it sounds very similar.
Like you DH was at home surrounded by family. This continues to be a comfort.
GN has been a constant source of help and support, and light relief!

Sending you loving thoughts. xx

Hetty58 Thu 04-Mar-21 08:08:02

merlotgran, just take things day by day and please don't put yourself under extra pressure to 'come to terms with' (as you say), cope well etc.

Even when expected, it's a tremendous shock to the system. We tend to expect far too much of ourselves as we adjust to a new identity and different world - so do take care and look after yourself really well!