carilou just wanted to say so sorry and how I can relate to your post My Dad unlike yours was not a confident gregarious man he was so loyal to mum and told me he’d never had anyone else he was cautious , a quiet, generous, kind man
He was 92 and had felt tired for some weeks I told he was 92 he expected too much He still did his daily exercises and lived alone after mum got Alzheimer’s and had to be looked after one day he had a slight collapse back onto his bed the paramedics took him for a check up, his blood count was so low the doctor couldn’t see how he was still walking
after an endoscopy which was put off for three days each day having him nil by mouth the doctor told him with NO ONE present that he had terminal cancer of the stomach, with secondaries in lungs, liver He gave up and was gone in three weeks just like your Dad
The heartbreaking thing was he had paid for his grandkids and families to come over to U.K. for a family reunion and kept saying I must live until June He died in March This was 2012, 6 months later mum died without knowing he had already died she had no awareness by this time, I used to visit her every day
Plant your tree carilou it will be good to see it grow strong like your Dad
I had a lovely Dad and my one regret was I don’t think I ever told him how much I loved him