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Queen Elizabeth hosting the American President so soon after her recent bereavement

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IslandGranny Thu 03-Jun-21 18:33:30

I just heard in the news that Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth is hosting the Bidens at Windsor castle this coming weekend. I just think it’s far to soon to expect her to do any sort of public duty. How can she be expected to make conversation or listen to other people, it’s too much for anyone in that situation. I remember not being able to function at any level after my husband died. I wasn’t safe to drive and goodness knows what rubbish I spoke to people. Emotionally you are all over the place. What if she feels sad and cries. For goodness sake it’s like some sort of torture putting her on show and expecting her to perform for those American Muppets who won’t appreciate her sacrifice anyway. I’m surprised Prince Charles hasn’t stepped in, he’s more than ready to do state occasions.!Surely her time of bereavement would be a year or so at least.

Callistemon Thu 03-Jun-21 22:24:38

Urmstongran

Hmm. Unless HMTQ is a good actress she seemed to delight in Trump’s company when he visited!

We have a term for that kind of smile in our family, Urmstongran which means plastering a beaming smile on your face when doing your duty under very difficult circumstances.

As for the interviews - that is just fake news. Of course she didn't say that.

flump Thu 03-Jun-21 22:21:32

Does anyone seriously think the Queen said what was written underneath that photo? It was posted by a Trumpist and that group of people have one thing in common with "the man who would be king" - complete and utter delusion! I would hope HM is more discerning.

EllanVannin Thu 03-Jun-21 22:12:46

PP had been a "creaking gate" for quite a while which would have given her the time to brace herself for when his actual time was up. I think there'd been a couple of scares which she'd have prepared herself for.
Latterly it would have felt like a grieving period when he was in hospital for longer than usual.

Kim19 Thu 03-Jun-21 22:08:13

My husband's funeral took place on a Wednesday. I returned to my office on the Friday afternoon. Don't ask me why but I most certainly knew that if I didn't do that I would not have gone back at all ever. Have never understood this but it was most certainly the 'right' action for me. Had a few hiccups along the way in the immediate aftermath but colleagues quietly supported me. HM obviously has a driving force within her. Amen to that.

Nonogran Thu 03-Jun-21 22:02:56

From what I've seen of HM in the press, since PP's demise, I think she looks relaxed & well. More cheerful too. The worry about PP's health is behind her & she's moving forward. Good for her.

Calendargirl Thu 03-Jun-21 21:56:25

Although she must miss her husband, it’s perhaps a relief that she doesn’t have to worry about his health any longer.

As for hosting the Bidens, I would imagine it will be quite low key as it is so soon after the Duke’s death, it’s not like she will be making up beds and cooking meals.
I’m sure Charles and William will be sharing hosting duties.

Urmstongran Thu 03-Jun-21 21:49:44

Indeed she is Maw.
We have as a nation very gratefully come to expect nothing less.

I still think these photographs illustrate genuine enjoyment!

2020convert Thu 03-Jun-21 21:43:41

She is our Queen and has always shown herself head and shoulders above everyone and everything during her reign. She said she’d serve use for life, I believe she will (health permitting) so keep calm and carry on, hy should anyone consider she’d do anything less?

MawBe Thu 03-Jun-21 21:43:39

She is a consummate professional Urmstongran plus the soul of good manners.

Urmstongran Thu 03-Jun-21 21:41:24

Hmm. Unless HMTQ is a good actress she seemed to delight in Trump’s company when he visited!

Daisymae Thu 03-Jun-21 21:37:16

I don't think that there's any danger of the Queen falling to pieces in public. Most of the royal family are nothing if not self controlled and resilient.

Urmstongran Thu 03-Jun-21 20:50:31

It will be her first meeting in person with a foreign head of state since the pandemic hit, and the first since the death of the Duke of Edinburgh in April.

Amazing to think this will be the 13th POTUS she has met.

I think she ‘flicks a switch’ and goes into ‘work mode’. She can (somehow) hold her emotions in check. Duty comes first.

One has to admire how she does it - especially at her age.

MawBe Thu 03-Jun-21 20:40:24

Lin52

The Queen certainly represents our country with a welcome to all, even having to put up with the Democratically elected orange muppet.

Am I alone in not understanding this post?
Biden is not an orange muppet.
Trump is history.
If you mean when she had to put up with Trump why not say so?

Lin52 Thu 03-Jun-21 20:31:08

The Queen certainly represents our country with a welcome to all, even having to put up with the Democratically elected orange muppet.

varian Thu 03-Jun-21 20:28:04

I am sure that the meeting with President Biden will be much easier for Her Majesty than the meeting she had with his ghastly predecessor.

EllanVannin Thu 03-Jun-21 20:25:35

They're programmed not to show emotion. Stiff upper lip job.

Hithere Thu 03-Jun-21 20:21:41

If she couldn't handle it, she wouldnt do it.

Simple

Callistemon Thu 03-Jun-21 19:34:31

AmberSpyglass

American muppets? You mean the democratically elected head of state as opposed to the parasitic nonsense we have?

Stupid post.

As always she will behave impeccably (some posters don't understand those two words of course).

Callistemon Thu 03-Jun-21 19:32:38

MawBe

I also would never describe the Bidens as muppets!
Their predecessors maybe but these are intelligent, cultured people who will probably be ideal guests.

She will do her duty as always.

I am sure she will appreciate entertaining the Bidens after having to endure Trump.

glammagran Thu 03-Jun-21 19:31:04

How do you know how the queen feels? Do you know her personally?

Kali2 Thu 03-Jun-21 19:28:12

Good for her. Respect.

lemsip Thu 03-Jun-21 19:24:46

she is 'at work' it is her job. personal things are put aside by the queen.

wildswan16 Thu 03-Jun-21 19:17:52

The Queen has been putting work and duty first for 70 years. I am quite sure she is able to know what she is capable of doing, and has already carried out many public engagements.

I don't think it is any of our business to decide how other people should grieve their loved ones, and we shouldn't make the mistake of transferring our personal feelings on to others.

Parsley3 Thu 03-Jun-21 19:12:20

The Queen puts duty before all else and the Bidens will be gracious guests so there is no need to fret for her wellbeing, Island.

SueDonim Thu 03-Jun-21 19:04:30

American Muppets? shock

Everyone deals with bereavement differently. My mum wanted to get back to ‘normal’ as quickly as possible. Maybe the Queen is the same. You can’t impose your experience onto other people.