My husband’s funeral this morning

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1 day at a time, cry, laugh, hurl a plate at the wall, do whatever helps YOU. So, so sorry you are going through this, take it 1 day at a time xx
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Mrs Quigley and NainCC - condolences to you both. A difficulty day indeed but you will find the strength to get through it. Hold on to good memories and grieve in your own way and in your own time.

So sorry for your loss MrsQuigleyi know I’ve been through it . On the day of the funeral I still couldn’t believe it was true.
With time the beautiful memories will keep you going . Grieve
the way you want to. There’s no remedy , everyone grieves differently

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Thanks to all for your lovely messages, they do help and the day has passed in a blur. So true that I am grateful that the suffering is over after so many years and that we were lucky to have 45 years together. Gransnet is invaluable, I don't know many widows in real life and so many here have trodden the same path, sadly.

I am so sorry for you both and send condolences.
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I’m sorry, I missed Naincc’s post. Thinking you too.

Please accept my sincere condolences MrsQuigley and NainCC.

I am so sorry, MrsQuigley.

thinking of you x

Such a sad day for you both. I’m so sorry.

1summer. I know exactly how that feels, day after day with your heart being slowly broken. One hour at a time. Very hard for you all.

So sorry MrsQuigley you will find the strength to get through today I know. After that as others have said take one day at a time. Grieve in any way that helps and let others support you where they can. Thinking of you

Oh MrsQuigley I can only imagine how you must feel

When you reach the point where you feel the future is bleak, all you can do is just put one foot in front of the other and get through the day, and the following days - and know that this too shall pass, eventually, and that you can only take life in small steps for the moment.

I hope you get some sense of closure, and that the funeral goes well. You will get through this.

Oh dear my sincere condolences to MrsQuigley and NainCC I am sure you will have strength to get through this.
My stomach lurched reading this as my husband is terminally ill and hasn’t much longer, I feel sick thinking about his death and being without him let alone the funeral and the future without him.
But at the funeral you both will be surrounded by people who loved and respected him, hope that love gets you through the day.

Dempie55 - a similar situation for me, but we were allowed 15 mourners. It passed in a haze and to this day, I can’t remember many who stood outside the Crematorium to see him arrive and am often surprised when someone says ‘we were there’.
Although it made it an easier day for our DDs and me, it certainly wasn’t the funeral he deserved.

I’m so sorry for your terrible loss. Thinking of you x

I am so sorry for both of you. My husband died in 2020, and, because of very strict Covid restrictions at the time, we were not able to have a funeral, he was cremated with only the funeral director in attendance. I am not sure how I feel about that now. On the one hand, I never had to go through what you are about to, on the other hand, I feel guilty that we could not say goodbye to him as a large family. As for the next few months, you will get through it. You will be amazed how you find the strength to cope. But nothing will ever be the same again. Everything is different when you are living alone.

Thinking of you, it's a terrible day. My husband died suddenly six years ago, his funeral is still a blur.

I do recommend joining WAY UP, I found kindness and practical support from fellow widows during the awful early days of grief.

So sorry for your loss. With family and friends you will get through the day

Heartfelt condolences Mrs.Q }}}Hugs{{{

And to you Nain }}}Hugs{{{

Hope it all goes well for you both xx

Sending condolences to those who have lost loved ones.
My thoughts are with you.

I feel for all of you in that situation. The day of the funeral must be the worst, but you will get through it.

Thinking of you.

Sincere condolences to you both MrsQuigley and Naincc. I can only imagine what you must be going through. Sending much love and strength for the days ahead. ?