Too many funerals

So sorry for your loss

Like a popular say in the US - fuck cancer! And covid

I am sorry to hear that you have been hit with so much grief and loss in such a short time, Frankie. That's one of the nasty things that come with ageing. Often people you would least expect to die. I hate it.

It's awful.
Our extended family went through a spate[not quite as bad as yours] a decade ago.
Some of us started to feel literally a bit sick with it all.
Even some dark humour crept in,

We took some strength from each other. It became a bit of siege mentality until it all passed.

What a sad time in your lives Frankie and fancythat. I suppose it's a lottery when we go but sometimes it seems a spate comes along at once and we're left looking at those gaps in our lives. Condolences

Frankie51 I am sorry it really must be very sad for you. We went through a period like that a few years ago and my very sweet SO I is on her last few days as we speak. I hope you can take some comfort from the good wishes on here. Xx

It's a sad fact as we get older more people in our lives some before their time die. When younger families and friends met at weddings and christenings and now funerals. Few years back my brother went to 11 funerals in a year all friends who had either died from illness or in an accident. Only 2 certainties in life we are born we die . That's why it's important to live the best life we can as none of us know when our time is up.

I am so sorry to hear about your losses. It must be very difficult for you at the moment. We had a similar year in 2019 and asked who was going to be next? I had words with a bereavement counsellor who advised me to just work through one day at a time setting yourself small joys like a new book, a bar of chocolate, a trip to the hairdresser, your favourite programme and list them. It would show what joy you have each day. Also, perhaps journaling the good memories you have of all those who have passed and remembering them with love. These times are not easy but they do pass and it is a question of finding a good support to get you through the days and hours. Sending many best wishes for you, your family and friends.

I have had a veritable avalanche of bereavement in the last nine months. My husband died, then his brother, my cousin, a dear friend and then my much loved brother in law. You see people getting older and more frail and naturally dwell on who might next, and you have to find the strength to support those people who supported you. But that resilience is within us all if we dig deep enough.

It is indeed a sad fact of getting older that we lose loved ones and go to more funerals than we would wish.

It is a salutary reminder to Carpe Diem.