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Pure Cremations

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EMMYPEMMY Mon 13-Feb-23 08:04:41

I think it helps the children not laying out lots of unnecessary money
We came in the world unannounced let's go out the same.
Why have lots of people standing around your coffin singing your praises you cannot hear them. They should say it in Life , visit you in Life, share you in Life .

Blondiescot Mon 13-Feb-23 07:53:14

My mum did this years ago, before this type of service was widely advertised. It was a bit weird, but I can't say I found it distressing. My dad's cremation (when I was 19) was far more upsetting.

Allsorts Mon 13-Feb-23 07:50:12

Would hate to think of my loved one going alone. Maybe your mother did not fully understand that it not only meant no cars, fancy coffin etc.but no one there. I didn't know that. The advert on telly showing the jovial family makes light of it. Your mother probably thought it would save you worry and stress on top of grieving. If you loved her and were there in life thats what is important.

Calendargirl Mon 13-Feb-23 07:19:06

Hope it doesn’t happen for a long time yet, but after over 50 years together, would hate to think of DH making his final journey alone.

I would want to be there, and think he would want to be there for me.

grandMattie Mon 13-Feb-23 05:25:25

She probably wanted the minimum expense. Why don’t you have a ceremony and wake for the interment of her ashes? That way you will have closure.

crazyH Mon 13-Feb-23 01:44:26

I thought that was the point - less expense, less sadness and tears. I might consider that

Moneyboss123 Mon 13-Feb-23 00:39:53

Further to my post 'loss of my mum'. She'd arranged and paid for a Pure Cremation ( there are other companies offering the same type of service) . Knowing what i know now, I would have tried to talk her out of it. I have found not having a funeral really distressing. She was taken from her house and cremated without anyone present. Although my siblings and I got together to remember her, it wasn't the same as a funeral with all her family and friends there.