Widower dating after 6 years, hides and wears wedding ring when he goes out alone

silverlining48

I hadn’t noticed til after I posted.

Me neither grrrrrrr

BlueBelle

I can manage to not get involved with anyone without wearing a ring curtsintwitcher 🙃

😂😂😂

I hadn’t noticed til after I posted.

This is a 4 months old thread why renew it the original poster never came back

When I was single, I used to slip on a wedding ring to keep men's advances away.

Just a thought but do you know for sure that he’s actually widowed? I ask this because similar happened to someone I know.

Dear Rebecca: DON'T EVER LISTEN TO GOSSIP!

But you did, so did the "kind person" who told you that your friend wears his wedding ring when he is not with you, see him herself with it on, or was she told by somebody?

What I am getting at here is; there may be no truth in the story.

Ask him, if he still wears his ring, and be honest, tell him Mrs X told you he did.

It sounds to me as if it is not his behaviour you need to worry about, but the motives of whoever told you this story.

This poster has posted similar on Mumsnet, so I'm not convinced by wanting an older person's opinion. I think it's unlikely and op will either never return or will come back full of indignation at us doubters

Whiff

Rebecca did you get engaged? As you haven't made it clear. You say he comes home to you are you living together? Your post isn't clear plus you say you have been told he doesn't wear his wedding ring when without you who told you ? How long was he married before his wife died? Has he got any children and do you have any ? If yes to both those questions what do they think?

If you truly want advice you need to give more information.

I think she said he does wear the wedding ring when he’s ‘out’.
Sounds a bit odd to me.

Obviously not very old - as who, over say, 30 or 35 would say on Valentines.

My thought was a young person with no parents who wanted "older person" perspective.

Please come back and give us some more info... if you are genuine.

Is he a widower or just sampling if the grass is greener elsewhere it does sound far fetched.

Did anyone read the later duplicate thread in which he had been widowed for nine years, they had been dating for nine months (how time flies in just a few hours!), and presumably after reading my comment above about ‘getting engaged’ there was a change to him having asked her to marry him?

Whether they are just dating or living together, there is a lack of open communication in this relationship which needs to be dealt with before the relationship gets more committed.

I can manage to not get involved with anyone without wearing a ring curtsintwitcher 🙃

Wearing a ring on the left ring finger means the wearer is in a committed relationship, not necessarily married. I wear my wedding ring when I'm in a social setting because it's an indication that I'm not available. I'm not interested in getting involved with anyone.

You’re concerned ? I m concerned that he asked you to get engaged after 3 months !!!!
Like others say you sound very young and inexperienced
No one here can answer this question for you and who are these people telling you? Have you got someone following him how else can they know he takes his ring on and off its not something you’d automatically notice

Rebecca did you get engaged? As you haven't made it clear. You say he comes home to you are you living together? Your post isn't clear plus you say you have been told he doesn't wear his wedding ring when without you who told you ? How long was he married before his wife died? Has he got any children and do you have any ? If yes to both those questions what do they think?

If you truly want advice you need to give more information.

I’m confused too. Dating and living together (which ‘coming home to me’ infers) are not the same thing. Your statement that he asked you to ‘get engaged on Valentines’ (when presumably you had been together for only three months) sounds as though it was written by a very young person.

Rebecca
Really? Ask him as no-one else can answer for him.

I don't understand why you say you are living with him but call it dating.

If you don't mind me saying, Rebecca344, you do sound very young indeed and he could be a lot older than you.

Are you sure you're ready for a long-term commitment if you can't even ask him about this?
You don't say where he's going when he goes out.
To work, to the pub or have you no idea? You obviously don't trust him.

Not a good basis for a relationship, let alone marriage.

If you do not want to ask him this question outright. Ought you to look at this relationship and look for other things you wouldn't ask him.

A good relationship is based on open communication, and if that is lacking, shouldn't you think long and hard about entering into any commitment.

I agree. Ask him. It's important you know why he does this.

It doesn't bode well for the future if you're unable to discuss these things.

Ask him.

If it true I wouldnt worry about him respecting his wife, as far as being engaged what matters is his commitment to you. He sounds a good man don’t let any ring bug you.

Are you dating or living together?
Sorry, I'm confused.

Why shouldn't he wear his wedding ring? He's not married to you; if you get married then perhaps he could move it to his right hand or keep it safely somewhere.