My friend has a few weeks to live.Not sure if this is a good idea?

I have been thinking about your original post. My neighbour of 40 years passed away a couple of weeks ago. Their funeral was two days ago and I did not realise how much attending it would affect me to the point of extreme sadness. I thought of all the happy times we had shared as we grew old and also all the chats and their laughter and sense of humour. Sometimes we don't realise how deeply other people, whom we accept as part of our everyday fabric, have touched our our lives, until they are gone. Please write that letter and contact the children. This neighbour's children were so pleased we had been there for their parent all along.

Write to her, the sooner the better, and after her death write something similar to her daughters or, if you can manage it, without breaking down, tell them how much their mother meant to you.

Definitely write. It will confirm to her how loved she is.

Oh so sad🥲yes, do write it. It’s going to be so hard for you to write and for her to read.

Yes that would be a lovely thing to do. So sorry to hear your sad news.

I too think you would feel better writing that letter.
My mum wrote letters to myself and 2 sisters when dying of Pancreatic Cancer.
I saved mine to read until a week after her death. Didn't want to open the envelope, as knew that would my last communication. Meant so much to know she loved me.
I think your friend would feel so much comfort in knowing how much you care.
So sorry for your sad predicament. 🌹

Doodle what you wrote brought tears to my eyes. Stay strong.

Avitorl please write the letter asap otherwise you will have regrets.

My lovely friend died a year ago. She was at home and towards the end when she didn’t feel able to have visitors and I sent her text messages at least daily. Just saying I was thinking of her, that I loved her and if I had been out with mutual friends I told her we missed her. Letters can take a while to arrive and I didn’t want to risk upsetting her family with a letter to her arriving after she had died. Her husband told me that they both appreciated my messages. I also sent flowers weekly for the last couple of weeks when I felt I needed and wanted to do something and felt helpless.

In a slightly different vein, when our GP retired I wrote to him to tell him what a huge help he had been during the years my husband was ill, and how much we had relied on his support. He was very touched and rang me to tell me how much my letter had meant. I think are usually happy to know that they've made a difference.

Definitely write a letter. You will regret it if you don’t. A very dear friend of mine was dying and called to me as I was leaving the hospice that she loved me. I was too emotional to reply and all choked up I nodded my head. She died that afternoon and I wish I had told her I loved her too. Please do what your heart tells you.

I think that it's a wonderful idea to write a letter to your dear friend .

Certainly tell her how much she means to you .

I've lost a few friends .
And it's so painful .

I didn't know that one of my friends was dying .
What really grieved me was the fact that a mutual friend knew and could have told me with a simple phone call .
Instead , she found it depressing and didn't want to spoil her annual long term break .
I had no closure on her death . I would have liked to have visited her if she'd wished .

Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts and advice. I will write the letter to her.Her daughter or carer will need to read it to her as she is losing her sight.At least she will now be spared the experience of going completely blind.
She is the only visitor to my home who my rescue cat doesn't hide from instead she runs to greet her as soon as she hears my friend's voice.

Yes, please do write to your friend. Just say all those things you would want her to hear. Special thoughts to you both. 💐

Agree with everyone. Definitely write a letter.

What a very sad time for you. Write to your friend and tell her how much she meant to you. You won't regret it.

Exactly urms.

My 'best' friend died in January and I so wish I had written to her. I know she would have really appreciated it.

Only you know whether that's appropriate in your case but do what you think she would like.

This.

When my husband was dying (he knew) our grandchildren (21, 20 and 18) all wrote to him such loving and caring letters telling him how much they loved him and how special he was to each of them.
We read those letters too him and it made him happy to think that he had made such a difference to their lives. Yes we all cried when we read the letters but it was wonderful too. My husband asked that they be read out at his funeral and our grandchildren did him proud. Everyone said what lovely tributes they were and how personal it made the service.
Please write to your friend.

I was in the same situation last year with a friend of forty years who unfortunately had an unexpected stage 4 cancer diagnosis and became very ill, very quickly. I wrote her a letter and she read it the day before she died. When her husband rang me to tell me the sad news he made a point of mentioning how touched she had been by my letter and I am so glad that I sent it.

Avitor1, I have just been through similar. They have appreciated me always being here for them but also appreciated me not visiting, they have enough with family and extended family.

I think it's a lovely idea. Definitely send it to her daughter who will be able to read it to her mum if she wants. I was able to say all the things I wanted to my oldest, dearest friend before she died. We both cried but it comforted me and her and she knew how much she was loved.

Poor lady, I hope she is being cared for kindly and you can be kind to yourself.

My friend of 40 years made more or less the same request, I accepted her wishes.

Write her a letter xx 💋