I am cheating on my dead husband

I recently found someone after years of depression

“Years of depression?
Your husband has only been dead for three years (in fact less)
Pretty quick to bounce back.
Frankly, I m sceptical.

No reason at all why you shouldn’t find a new love, but I am concerned that you don’t seem to have time for your kids.
I can imagine your mother writing on here, unhappy that you expect her to look after your children whilst you spend time with him. Please tell us this is not quite how it seems.

Your children are bereaved too.
They should be your priority.
Three years later and you are still offloading them on your mother?

A man will not complete your life.

Make a good life for you and your children with the support of your family first, it will be different but you will survive this.

Your husband would not want you to neglect his children.

Sorry to sound blunt

Another dubious post.

After the grieving it’s your happiness that counts, look forwards not backwards, whatever you feel comfortable with, you may find someone you may not.

I met a woman on a holiday trip she was attractive at 70 and had been widowed young. Chatting I asked why she she didn’t get married again, you must have had offers. “ Yes several, but my husband left me well provided and I never met anyone I wanted to live with”

I think that pretty much sums why you do or don’t remarry

You are NOT cheating on you dead husband - marriage lasts until death parts us, and you are a comparitively young woman with, I hope and trust, a long life ahead of you.

Falling in love again is quite natural.

I do not necessarily agree with other posters that you must put your children first. To give them a happy life, you need to be if not happy, at least reasonably content-

In my experience love is nearly always a good thing, and feeling loved yourself will make it easier for you to give love.

Try to enjoy being with this new love, without feeling quilty.

How old are your children? Whatever their ages, make it clear that you love them, you still love their father, but you have found a friend whom you also love.

Hmm...

Oh no

You'll never stop loving your late husband but that doesn't mean you can't love your new man as well.
You must always put your children first though, they have lost their father and will be grieving as well.
My first husband died age 53 when I was 48 after 30 years of marriage and 3 children. I was lucky and found another partner who sadly died this year after 20 years of marriage.
Please help your children first though.

Where do your children figure in the picture?

Obviously you are in the USA?
Perhaps things there are different, but if you hardly have time for the kids - are you spending too much time with the new love?
It sounds do me that you need to heal yourself first, before you embark on a new relationship.