Remembering my Mum

I feel for you.

It’ll be 20 years in June my mum died.

Still at times there’s something on the tv and I think, “Hope Mum’s watching this”. - then I remember that of course she won’t be.

But love remains, and memories never die.

Aww I feel for you both 20 years is a long time.Its lovely that you have such lovely memories though.
My mum died last June. I was lucky to have her so long she was 92. I’m missing her so much, and she’s has left a gigantic hole in our family which I didn’t quite expect.
We still talk about her a lot, it helps keep her memory alive.

I feel for you. My Mum died suddenly one Christmas 30 years ago. I still want to tell her things about the children.... although, of course, they are no longer children now. For years I would pick up the phone to ring her, forgetting in that instant that she wasn't there.

Warm thoughts to all of you.

Both my parents died 30 years ago in March and Septembee within 6 months of each other. They were in their mid 70s. As am I now. And I miss them so much. As said above I can't believe it has been 30 years since I last spoke to them.
I wasn't the most patient or caring of daughters. Oh to be able to turn the clock back and do it all better. Not to have said some of the things I said. Sympathies to all.

It’s nearly five years since I lost mum and nineteen years next month without Dad. The little GC love to hear stories about them. DH and I are the old ones now. Memories do go on forever ❤️

How lovely that some of us have such warm memories of our parents.
My children often reference my mother to their children - " My Grandma loved/ would have said" and later this year, when my daughter is awarded her PhD I will send a prayer up to my Dad . He would have been so very proud ( and bored the socks off anyone he met on the subject!).
Lucky us, eh?

You never forget your Mum, its 49 years since mine died when I was 23. I still want to tell her things.

I'm a really old Gransnetter my mum died 61 years ago I was 19yrs. The memories I have is of a kind loving mum who gave wonderful cuddles and never complained when she must have been in so much pain. So sad that she missed so much. Love you mum xx Love and hugs to those with recent losses and also long term like me. Hope everyone has a lovely Easter

Mum died 18 years ago aged 85. She was such a vibrant person and a brilliant mother and grandmother although she'd had a hellish childhood. DD says that when she has a problem, she asks herself, what would Granny say?

It would have been my mum’s 96th birthday next Wednesday if she had survived the vile cancer which took her 10 years ago!
The day before her diagnosis she had done an eight mile walk ! At least three times a year I visit the site where her ashes are scattered and tell her all of the family and world news! What I miss most is sharing holiday photos and experiences with her! She was forthright, clever, opinionated and funny !

48 years in July since my mother's death.
I feel such love and gratitude to have had her. Never robust with a difficult husband she enjoyed her three girls..I was the youngest.
Her love and fortitude and happy heart inspire me still.

Write the memories down for your children and grandchildren.

My nephew asked me to write about our childhood when my sister died three weeks ago. It was painful and I wept buckets. I wrote about what I remember about her birth, about her love of cats, and the things we got up to, what made us giggle. About what Christmas and New Year were like in our home; our favourite pastimes, and the books we loved, the time a boy threw her school bag from the bus window, just what came into my head and I wrote it all down. Five pages!

But the tears were tears of love for the incredible woman who was their mother and my 'little' sister. Your mothers were incredible too.

Just do it is my advice.

My son died 25 years ago this month aged 15 years, today is his 40th birthday. I miss him so much, even with 3 children, 4 stepchildren and 9 grandchildren! He is still a part of my daily life I've got so many memories of him and I against the world, today is so hard x

It would have been my mum’s 94th birthday today had she still been here there would have been a great party, with her 3 AC’s, her 9 DGC and her6 great DGC. They’ve missed knowing a remarkable woman. She died when she was 43 and I was 15. Not a day goes by I don’t miss her still

Lucky you all.
I was a 'mistake' in my mother's words ( told to me just before I got married).
My brother was 10 years older.
I have just one memory of maternal physical contact - sitting on her knee when I was about 3 years old, whilst she taught me to read - very clever, as I became an avid reader, so didn't need to be entertained'. When I started school, I was miserable until the teacher realised that I was totally bored, having been placed in a reception class where a large part of every day was spent in teaching phonics - a for apple etc! I was then moved up into a more advanced class.

I hasten to say that I was always well looked after, but much, much later in life, I realised that physical demonstration has never come naturally to me, and although I cuddled and kissed my children, as they grew older , I recently realised that I have rarely hugged them, although I love them dearly..

Lost my Mum coming up for 5 years this summer. We miss her all the time, she was an amazing Mum, Grandmother and friend to many.
My darling Dad died 10 years ago... Thinking about my Dad who was the best, still brings tears to my eyes, but thinking about my Mum brings a smile and happiness that she was a Legend in mine and my sisters eyes.

My mother died 15 years ago and I still like to think that she is watching what is happening to us, though I have no religious or spiritualist views. Silly I know.
She died just before her first great granddaughter was born. My son and his wife have always spoken to their children about “Nanny” who is still part of our family. She would have been 103 a few days ago. My father died 45 years ago, but did meet two of his grandchildren. I’m so sad to think what they’ve both missed.

My lovely mum died in 1997, just a few days after her 80th birthday. I do miss her and am sad that she didn’t live long enough to see her four lovely granddaughters. My dad died 20 years ago this year, he missed my mum so much, but my brother and I did our best to help him. He was 89 when he died, his birthday is tomorrow, April 20th. He didn’t see any of his granddaughters either.

Not granddaughters, I should have said great-granddaughters! A senior moment!

I came across this poem by Donna Ashworth,

For those thinking of a lost one: it’s called
Missed me most

"When you feel you are without me
close your eyes. Float down beneath
your skin, retreat within.

I am the blood that flows, I am
the courage in your gut that grows.

I am the chamber in your heart that
feels like home.

I am the seed from which your life was proudly grown

Only my body has flown.
But me, I dwell still within your bones.

My voice and all the good I've ever known,
is yours to own.

When you feel you are without me,
listen close. I whisper louder,
When you miss me the most.

I’m a strong believer that she’s waiting for you. Lots of love to you x

Oh Blossom5 - how my heart aches for you - I hope you are with someone today and not on your own🌺

I see my late mum in the mannerisms of my daughter and I hear myself using her phrases. It’s been 16 years now and I still feel her near at times which is comforting. I wish she had lived to meet her great grandchildren as she would have adored all of them.

My mum died 3 days before my 15th birthday, my dad 3 months after my 21st. I am an only child and still miss them every day. I'm now 67.