Loss of brother

I’m sorry about your brother losing a sibling is such a loss and to see your parent lose a child is heart breaking.

I was going to say it might be nice to attend the wedding and just have a break from it all, a change of scenery? Could one of your other siblings come and stay with Mum? BUT if your instincts are telling you otherwise you must do what you feel is right

Yes my husband is still going as he is doing a reading. He is very supportive also losing his twin brother 4 years ago.

My deepest sympathy. It is 34 years since my sister died, but I can remember how raw the grief was.

Do not go to the wedding. You will be much better staying at home with your mother, and I agree with Gummie, not so much that the bride and groom will not want you there, but other guests who know you both will be conflicted between joy at the wedding aand grief at your loss and the happiness of the wedding may increase your feelings of isolation and loss.

First my deepest sympathy on the loss of your brother. It is 18 months since my brother died and I still feel his loss every day.

Is your DH going to the wedding anyway? If so then I think people will understand, we can never plan for these things to happen.

However, I will also add that my own dad died just a few days before my brother's wedding.

The wedding went ahead, and the funeral just two days later. It was a very stange time but life goes on...

In this respect if you decide to go, nothing wrong with enjoying yourself, either.

I'm so sorry for your loss Readandcook - it's so tough when you're supporting a grieving parent but you are grieving yourself. My thoughts are with you.

I agree with everyone, I would give the wedding a miss. Your Mum (and yourself) are your priorities right now. I'm quite sure the bridge and groom will understand.

I wouldn't be able to go. And the happy couple may prefer not to have a friend who will be freshly grieving to attend.

I agree. You are grieving , your Mum is devastated and needs you - you need each other now. Give your apology and send your love to the couple, They will understand. I send you and your Mum my sympathy.

Read&Cook So sorry for the loss of your dear brother . I wouldn't go to the wedding, you will not be in the mood. I had an occasion to go to the weekend after my dad died and I just couldn't even contemplate it.

I learnt this morning that a good friend's husband has just passed away, quick aggressive cancer, I had no idea he was even ill, such a shock.

I wouldn't go Readandcook and I'm sure your husband's nephew will understand.

My sincere condolences for your loss .

I think id give it a miss Readandcook. I don’t think you would enjoy it and it would be stressful , thinking of your dm.
It would be different if it was nearby and you could go for a couple of hours.
Upsetting for you too, thinking of your db.