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What to say in a birthday card to recently bereaved

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LovesBach Thu 14-Aug-25 14:03:41

A friend's daughter died in a car accident. On her birthday some months later I sent a card with a gentle green landscape, and wished her a peaceful day.

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Mojack26 Thu 14-Aug-25 14:03:22

Send a Thinking of you card' instead of a birthday card

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ViceVersa Wed 13-Aug-25 10:54:58

Yes, I meant to say that the card I gave to my friend wasn't a 'Happy Birthday' - can't remember if it was just a blank card or a 'Thinking of You' one. Seemed more appropriate under the circumstances.

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25Avalon Wed 13-Aug-25 09:27:10

“May you find peace on your birthday. Thinking of you with love.”

When I lost my son peace was what I wanted.

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Chocolatelovinggran Wed 13-Aug-25 09:18:00

In a similar situation, I did as others have suggested, and bought a low key card which said " It's your birthday" ( no happy, celebrate,etc) and wrote in it that I knew that the day would be bittersweet, and that I was thinking of them.

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Harris27 Wed 13-Aug-25 09:09:05

Thinking of you today on your birthday, sending love and kind thoughts.

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Dee1012 Wed 13-Aug-25 08:58:21

Perhaps something along the lines of "I know that this birthday may be a difficult one for you, and I wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you today."

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Magenta8 Wed 13-Aug-25 08:57:39

What I did in a similar situation was to buy a blank card and I wrote "Thinking of you on your birthday" inside. I then added a personal note expressing my sympathy etc.

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M0nica Wed 13-Aug-25 08:42:57

Just write 'with all my love'.

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BlueBelle Wed 13-Aug-25 07:47:07

Just a ‘thinking of you’ card It won’t be a happy birthday will it? so don’t wish her one but she needs to know you haven’t forgotten her

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Aldom Wed 13-Aug-25 07:37:10

A few years ago I was bereaved of my adult son.
People were thoughtful with my birthday cards some months later.
They choose cards which didn't say "Happy Birthday". Inside they wrote such things as, Thinking of you on your birthday and wishing you a gentle day.
It means a lot, still to receive birthday cards and kind wishes, whilst knowing that friends and family are aware of my feelings.
I wish your friend/family member
A gentle day. flowers

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Grannynannywanny Wed 13-Aug-25 07:36:44

Rather than send a birthday card I’d send a “Thinking of You” style of card.

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ViceVersa Wed 13-Aug-25 07:36:18

A friend of mine recently lost her husband the day before her birthday. I just wrote that I couldn't imagine how she must be feeling, but didn't want the day to pass without her knowing she was in my thoughts - something to that effect.

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Cambsnan Wed 13-Aug-25 07:25:52

I need to send a card to someone who recently lost an adult child. I am at a loss of what today in the card. How do you wish them a good birthday?

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