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Feeling Sad For My Neighbour

(35 Posts)
M0nica Mon 17-Nov-25 05:19:13

If all else fails, ring the Samaritans, they can be a listening ear at times like this, as well as when people's problems are life threatening.

Do you and an AC or friend you could ring?

You can comfort yourself with the thought that you were the friend in need when one was wanted and you dealt with it extremely well

MG55 Sun 16-Nov-25 23:56:58

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Moonwatcher1904 Sun 16-Nov-25 23:48:54

Thankyou all. I just needed to talk to someone. My DH isn't much help although he's sorry it happened.

Bukkie Sun 16-Nov-25 23:45:55

Take care of yourself because you too have had a shock. Take comfort from the fact you did everything you could for your neighbour and her husband. She is lucky to have you and I am sure she appreciates that.

MG55 Sun 16-Nov-25 23:39:01

Well done on helping your neighbour and taking on the responsibility of letting others know.
You will need to have a rest tonight as you might be in shock yourself so take care.
Tomorrow will be sad ๐Ÿ’•

pably15 Sun 16-Nov-25 23:26:51

it's so sad to hear this,but you did everything you could, your neighbour is very fortunate to have a neighbour like you.

Moonwatcher1904 Sun 16-Nov-25 23:25:33

There are a couple of retired ladies in our block - one on the other side of me and the other on the floor below. We all know each other quite well. I will have to go and tell them in the morning as they would want to know. I'm 73 myself and you never know what is round the corner. I never thought in my life that I would ever have to perform CPR on anyone. I'm just beginning to realise the evenings events and it's just hit me.

Sadgrandma Sun 16-Nov-25 23:10:25

How sad for your neighbour and it must have been very hard on you as well having to perform CPR. You must comfort yourself by thinking that you did everything possible and that you were there to give some comfort to your neighbour at her time of need.
Iโ€™m sure that you will also continue to do everything you can to help her in the future as well.

nanna8 Sun 16-Nov-25 23:06:09

That is so sad and it is good she has a kind,loving neighbour in you. Her life will change now but hopefully her family will help her through it. Similar happened when my mum died - we flew out from Australia but it was a couple of days before we got there. Meanwhile neighbours had helped and a cousin. Thank the Lord for good neighbours !

Moonwatcher1904 Sun 16-Nov-25 23:01:08

My next door neighbour knocked on my door about 6.30 this evening and asked could I help. She thinks her DH has died. I went in to see if I could and found him still in his chair but sadly he had passed away. They have been my lovely neighbours for 26 years.
I rang 111 and the lady told me to get him onto the floor and perform CPR. I have never done this in my life but she talked me through it and said an ambulance was on its way. When they arrived the paramedic told me to carry on while they put a monitor on him. He finally confirmed that he had died.
I asked my neighbour if there was anyone I could ring. One son was on the other side of the country and the other was in Albania for the football. I did, however, get hold of her granddaughter and she said she would be on her way. Another granddaughter arrived so at least she wasn't on her own. My neighbour can't see very well as she has macular degeneration bad and her DH did everything for her.
I feel so sad for her as he was her lifeline. I don't know what will happen now but at least her family are with her.