Feeling Sad For My Neighbour

That is so sad and it is good she has a kind,loving neighbour in you. Her life will change now but hopefully her family will help her through it. Similar happened when my mum died - we flew out from Australia but it was a couple of days before we got there. Meanwhile neighbours had helped and a cousin. Thank the Lord for good neighbours !

How sad for your neighbour and it must have been very hard on you as well having to perform CPR. You must comfort yourself by thinking that you did everything possible and that you were there to give some comfort to your neighbour at her time of need.
I’m sure that you will also continue to do everything you can to help her in the future as well.

There are a couple of retired ladies in our block - one on the other side of me and the other on the floor below. We all know each other quite well. I will have to go and tell them in the morning as they would want to know. I'm 73 myself and you never know what is round the corner. I never thought in my life that I would ever have to perform CPR on anyone. I'm just beginning to realise the evenings events and it's just hit me.

it's so sad to hear this,but you did everything you could, your neighbour is very fortunate to have a neighbour like you.

Well done on helping your neighbour and taking on the responsibility of letting others know.
You will need to have a rest tonight as you might be in shock yourself so take care.
Tomorrow will be sad 💕

Take care of yourself because you too have had a shock. Take comfort from the fact you did everything you could for your neighbour and her husband. She is lucky to have you and I am sure she appreciates that.

Thankyou all. I just needed to talk to someone. My DH isn't much help although he's sorry it happened.

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If all else fails, ring the Samaritans, they can be a listening ear at times like this, as well as when people's problems are life threatening.

Do you and an AC or friend you could ring?

You can comfort yourself with the thought that you were the friend in need when one was wanted and you dealt with it extremely well

You were a true friend in need and tried your best.I feel so sorry for your neighbour and do hope her family will help her get the additional help she needs for the future. It is so hard without your partner, I had a household emergency recently and dealt with it alone, I don't even ask for help now but somehow i have managed.

I am so sorry to hear this but in time you will come to realise that you were a true neighbour. You did your best and helped someone in need. One of my neighbours was bedridden and his wife his carer. He woke one morning to find her dead beside him. He had to contact the ambulance with his phone and the family and they got him into a care home within 2 hours. Very sad situation mum, daughter, and he all died within months of each other but lovely family.

Oh no that’s so sad, but well done you, for trying and being there for your neighbour.
Such a shock for everyone. Had he been ill ? I suppose it’s a comfort to know he passed away peacefully at least.
Take care of yourself now, it’s a lot to take in, try and talk to family or friends today.

Moonwatcher 904 So sorry for you. Dreadful experience. Be kind to yourself. I know this would have knocked me for 6. Just be kind to your neighbour and keep in touch with her. This will mean a lot. When our neighbour lost his mother we did this. He later on said we got him though it. So sad.

Please take care of yourself here. I suspect this may be traumatic for you, in the true sense of the meaning of the word.

So very sad. And as others have said think of your own well-being right now as well.
Sending a hug 🤗

What Babs and others side.

You were amazing, following her wishes, but oh what a shock for you too. I'm so relieved her family are there to take care of matters. Sounds like she might need carers - be careful what you take on, I know that sounds mean, but realistic.

Agree, be careful what you take on. It is the responsibility of the family from here on in.

( learnt this the hard way)

❤️ for you .

Well done for being the best of neighbours. Take a quiet moment for yourself now. It will have been a shock.

Very sad - even if you'd been expecting it.

A shock for you too - being told to do CPR on him (and I am SO glad I've not been put in that situation by a healthcare person - as I would have found that incredibly difficult to deal with having that pressure put on me by someone and wanting to do my best for the dead person themselves).

So - yep....very understandable indeed to feel shocked all round by it. I've virtually given up alcohol - but would be reaching for a bottle of brandy after that one for sure.

Take care of yourself now - buy yourself a treat present (maybe get the neighbour a big bunch of flowers and get another one for yourself whilst on the subject) and a mini bottle of brandy for yourself. I've certainly reached for the brandy myself when a next door neighbour to my last house came knocking on the door to say his wife had died - and out came the brandy and I said "Say when" and started pouring. Also bought one - for myself - in the aftermath of my parents dying (at about the same time) - as that was a heck of a blow in a variety of ways.

Another thought being that it's probably harder for you if you were'nt expecting it. Difficult if you were - but harder if you weren't.

At least with my neighbour back along I was expecting it. I didn't know them very well at all - but I did know she'd got a terminal illness and he had told me only days before that the DWP had finally worked out what benefit they were going to pay her (as she'd lost her job because of her health) and he told me what they'd said. At that point I bought that bottle of brandy - as I thought "That low level payment = bang has gone her financial independence - she can't pay her way on that little" and I was expecting that to be the next thing he told me and went and bought the brandy ready.

How traumatic for you. Your poor neighbour. We had a similar experience last year when we found a man dead in the street. Take care.

Moonwatcher you have had a tremendous shock and done a tremendous job! Very well done. You did all you could for this man and his widow. I am sure last nights trauma will now be taking its toll on you. Be kind to yourself, talk about it to friends and family and keep posting here if that helps. You must be very shocked. Thinking of you , seek professional help if you feel that is needed . 🌹🌸. All will be well.

Thankyou all. I've told my two other neighbours who were upset and a bit shocked. He died peacefully watching tv which is all anyone could hope for. At least her family are with her.