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Signs/messages after a person passes away

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hamster58 Mon 12-Jan-26 10:02:58

Thanks everyone. I’m enjoying reading your experiences. Mine are different, too long to explain and things that happen in real life that instantly make me feel it’s a message from that person, but as you say, amazingly comforting. Please keep writing everyone

BlueBelle Mon 12-Jan-26 10:02:00

No i m afraid I don’t
My loved ones are in my thoughts, I talk to them, I love them but that’s all, they do not and I believe, cannot contact anyone, they are a memory only
Everything else Robins, butterflies, pictures falling off walls is just our way of comforting ourselves.

Cossy Mon 12-Jan-26 09:56:59

Yes. My husband is convinced white butterflies are a sign, I think Robins!

Might be utter rubbish, but it comforts us!

Also, many of our family have “sensed” presences in our home, to the point that we have (thought) we’ve seen “visions” of people.

Primrose53 Mon 12-Jan-26 09:48:40

My Mum is always around me. If I mislay anything I ask her to help me and she never fails. This will sound daft to many but I have a tiny Peruvian Worry Doll that goes everywhere with me. I keep it in my coat pocket and it’s like having Mum with me. She came to hospital and helped me all through my son’s major surgery and now with his chemo.

Moth62 Mon 12-Jan-26 09:47:29

Similar to Fallingstar above, my mother’s alarm clock began to beep the first time my brother visited my (very remote) house after our mum had died. Took me ages to track down the noise. The clock had been on a windowsill covered by detritus for months and was not even going, or so I had thought. It never beeped again after that. It was hugely comforting to us both.

Fallingstar Mon 12-Jan-26 09:42:19

Some time after my dear sister died I was in her bedroom with my brother in law helping him organise her stuff to give to charity when we both stopped because her jewellery/music box was playing. It hadn’t played for years. And once the music stopped it never played again.
We didn’t feel at all spooked we just sat on the bed in tears.

keepingquiet Mon 12-Jan-26 09:32:01

I like to think so.

Retread Mon 12-Jan-26 09:24:33

I have several times throughout my life had very clear and vivid dreams of different people close to me who have died. Usually carrying a message (in some way) that they are "fine and happy".

The dreams almost always include me spotting them at a gathering or in a group and in the dream I rush to them saying "What are you doing here? You're dead!" and they smile and poof, they're gone. Recently I dreamt of a friend who died and although I didn't speak to her in the dream, I saw her at the back of a crowd and waved and she waved back really animatedly. In life she was really tall.

I relayed this to her daughter who said "Oh my gosh, she was known for those cringe-inducing waves". 😊

Are these signs? I don't know, but the dreams are strangely comforting.

25Avalon Mon 12-Jan-26 09:07:50

Yes I do. After my son died we became aware of green woodpeckers appearing at significant times of our lives. When mil was overwrought one flew into her garden and called. It was never there before. On the day of his funeral one sat in our garden and watched us go. Dd went for a job interview and one appeared outside in the grounds - she got the job. There are other times too.

RosiesMawagain Mon 12-Jan-26 09:02:58

No

hamster58 Mon 12-Jan-26 09:01:20

Does anyone feel that after someone in your world has gone that sometimes you get ‘messages’ from them. I don’t mean hearing their voice but rather things that happen that instantly make you feel like it’s a communication from them? Any examples would be interesting to hear…