Any advice to help me support my Mum?

I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all solution. My Mum wanted to be left alone and asked me to stop well meaning people calling on her. But I have known people get huge comfort from sitting with friends and reminiscing.
Difficult.

I had to support my own Mum in the same situation Daisy25
And as ExDancer says there isn’t a one size fits all approach.
It’s very early days yet, as you say, so just be there for her where you can, sorting finances stuff, doing her shopping and generally seeing what she needs help with.💐

Daisy25 Remember to look after yourself, and if need be, ask for help I hope you have some siblings to help you.

He was your dad so you will be feeling it as well, I am sure your mum is grateful for all your support just take it one day at a time.

My mum used to say that one of the things she missed most was a cuddle. Perhaps, if you're that sort of family, giving your mum a hugg now and then would be appreciated. It's not the same, of course, but it's better than nothing.

Actually, one of the things I found hardest -and still do a bit- was sleeping in the house alone.

I was very grateful when my son slept over one night a week. I could sleep without hearing “noises”.

Is it that sort of practical thing you were asking for?

So sorry you have lost your dear dad. 😔
When my dad died I stayed with my mum for 3 weeks, helped her with funeral arrangements and fielded calls and visits she didn’t feel up to. When I left it was on the understanding that I could bob back anytime if needed even though we lived a 5 hour drive away. And she did need me on occasion during the first year at least.
But I had retired at this point and all my children had left home, you need to think of your circumstances and well-being as well as being strong for your mum.
Wishing you all the best xx

Thank you all for your kind words. Yes it is early days, I just feel a bit lost myself atm and live 2 hours away and just came home yesterday. Driving back tomorrow to be with my Mum. Unfortunately my brother is not really very well at the moment either, but atleast he is there with my Mum so she is not completely on her own.

I will go back to help with all the arrangements/administration etc. and give her a hug and let her cry and talk about Dad etc...It's been such a difficult time all of last year....I'm just trying to take it a day at a time and not get overwhelmed so that I can be there for my Mum.

It's just such an awful part of life, losing the people you love the most and who brought you up. At the same time you want to be strong for your other parent. I'm single now so even though I have good friends and a grown up child I feel a bit lost/alone.
Especially as my brother isn't well either.

I'm also feeling shattered....but that could be shock and the enormity of everything that needs to get sorted.

Only try to sort out what needs to be done immediately. A day at a time, just one foot in front of the other. Make a list of urgent tasks and leave the rest in pending.
And take a breath, you need to process your own grief too, don’t try to be all things to all people. Have been there and just crashed.
Sending hugs 🤗

Help your Mum to make lists of what needs doing, arrangements,people you must notify, and practical things like only paying single person council tax etc , having his name taken off joint accounts , that sort of thing.
I think if you can help her with this admin and just be there to support and listen, you will get through the next few weeks ok. BUT please bear in mind, that it's after the funeral and when things have seemingly calmed down that it will hit you the most, so make sure you make time for yourself as well and do some small things for yourself like a nice scented bath or your fave coffee or something, you cannot be strong for others until you have looked after yourself.

Fallingstar

Only try to sort out what needs to be done immediately. A day at a time, just one foot in front of the other. Make a list of urgent tasks and leave the rest in pending.
And take a breath, you need to process your own grief too, don’t try to be all things to all people. Have been there and just crashed.
Sending hugs 🤗

sorry, posted at the same time, echo your thoughts here.

Daisy, I am sincerely sorry for your loss.

Probably the best help you can give your mum right now is being with her as often as you can.

I think a lot of us, when one parent dies feel we "have to" take over and do everything. This is rarely the case.

When my mother died, my father greatly appreciated that my sister and I carefully made a point of asking HIM what he wanted done and when. He was still in full command of his mental faculties but not so able to sort through papers, clothes etc.

It is important to remember that our bereaved parent has lost his or her husband or wife. This is a very different thing to loosing a parent - believe me, I have been bereaved of both parents, my sister and more lately my husband.

Loosing a parent is hard, very hard, I am not saying it isn't.

But you need time and space to deal with the loss of your father, so please, do not do things you mum can and should console herself by doing.

Work with her as a team, and remember that she knew your dad before you did.