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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

Grannynannywanny Sun 22-Feb-26 22:05:35

Oh I’m so sorry to read your very sad news FGT. Sincere condolences to you and your family 💐

jusnoneed Sun 22-Feb-26 22:02:30

Condolences to you FGT

ginny Sun 22-Feb-26 22:02:23

So sorry to read this sad news .x

Nightsky2 Sun 22-Feb-26 21:46:03

Such sad news. My sincere condolences.

DamaskRose Sun 22-Feb-26 21:38:35

I’m so sorry to hear this very sad news FGT. Sending you love and prayers. Take care of yourself. Xx

EkwaNimitee Sun 22-Feb-26 21:34:22

I am so very sorry, my impression is of a wonderfully brave man …..often in my thoughts both of you,

dragonfly46 Sun 22-Feb-26 21:31:33

I weep with you FGT my thoughts have been with you constantly.
Try and take this time to reflect and recover a little the strength you with need going forwards.
Sending you and your family gentle hugs.

Chocolatelovinggran Sun 22-Feb-26 21:27:05

Do sorry to hear this, FGT.
I hope that the love that you shared can bring you some comfort.
A long, happy marriage is a wonderful achievement.

anna7 Sun 22-Feb-26 21:23:55

I'm so sorry. Sending love x

imaround Sun 22-Feb-26 21:22:29

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Cherrytree59 Sun 22-Feb-26 21:18:17

My sincere condolences to you and your lovely family.
I still think of you both as
Urmstongran and himself having followed you both on your Ryanair travels .
I hope in time your shared memories will bring you comfort

RIP MrUrmston🕯

luluaugust Sun 22-Feb-26 21:16:55

My condolences to you and your family flowers

nanaK54 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:58:14

I am so sorry flowers

Retread Sun 22-Feb-26 20:55:36

A very sad post. A wonderful promise to embrace once more the joy of living. He sounds like an amazing person. Condolences. thanks

Aldom Sun 22-Feb-26 20:50:51

"Three things remain. Faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
My thoughts are with you and your family. Sending you love and strength for the coming years.

Grannmarie Sun 22-Feb-26 20:49:52

I'm so very sorry to read your sad news about Himself, FGT. The two of you have been in my daily thoughts and prayers throughout your sad journey. Your dear man is at peace now, and I hope that, in time, you and yours will find comfort and consolation in memories of happier days.
God bless and comfort you all in your sorrow. Take care. 💐🕯🙏

Scapa1 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:49:39

So sorry to hear this, it has been a long journey. Stay brave.

mumofmadboys Sun 22-Feb-26 20:48:20

So sorry to hear your news. Sending love and strength x

brook2704 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:47:17

I am so sorry to hear this fgt sending you the gentlest hug and thinking of you and your dearest family at this awful sad time ❤️

TerriBull Sun 22-Feb-26 20:40:17

Desperately sorry to read your devestating news FGT. You painted a picture of a marriage at its very best, full of warmth, humour and joy. I don't think there is one person on GN who read your descriptions of "himself" who would have doubted how deep that love you had for your husband was. Your relationship was very special and so are you FGT.

Deepest sympathy to you and your family flowers xxx

Calendargirl Sun 22-Feb-26 20:35:30

You have often been in my thoughts.

Saddened to hear this news.

Sending you love and sympathy.

flowers

nantoseven Sun 22-Feb-26 20:32:29

I am so sorry. Sending love and strength to you in the days and months ahead. xxx

Gymstagran Sun 22-Feb-26 20:32:02

So very sorry FGT

Spinnaker Sun 22-Feb-26 20:29:17

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family FGT. I have thought of you every day for a long time now and I have no words that will make it better for you.

You and the wonderful late Phoenix were the two kindest to me back in the early days (I was under a different name, as were you) and I will never forget this. You have been missed a great deal and one day, when you're feeling in a better place, I hope to see your name again back on these threads.

Take care lovely lady and rest in peace Mr. FGT. flowers

CanadianGran Sun 22-Feb-26 20:27:39

Oh, I am so sorry to hear this, my condolences to you and your family. It is so hard to watch the ones we love suffer, and now you can know he is resting in peace.flowers