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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

GrannyGravy13 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:31:11

No words dear friend (((hugs))) 🩷💔

Visgir1 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:32:36

🌹 Deepest sympathy to you and your family 🌹

GrannySomerset Sun 22-Feb-26 17:34:11

Been there, know how impossibly hard it is. Sending love and sympathy at this difficult time. Hold on to the knowledge that you did your very best for him and he knew how loved he was.

LucyAnna5 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:34:13

Thinking of you and your family. Much sympathy and love to you.

fancythat Sun 22-Feb-26 17:34:49

I knew you were going through some things, but I didnt know what.
So sorry to hear about this.
You both sound like lovely people.

Glad to read he didnt have to go through is biggest fear.

Yes, prayers to you and your family. xx

Jacs7 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:34:59

Oh FGT I am so dreadfully sorry to read your news. I have held you both in my prayers and thoughts for the last few months. No words of mine can ease your grief, but I offer you and your family my most sincere condolences. I shall be thinking of you in the days to come

ferry23 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:35:45

Oh FGT I'm so very sorry.

It must be a very dark day for you. I'm not going to send you any platitudes. I am however going to tell you that you are in my thoughts and prayers and I'm sending you a heartfelt virtual hug.

flowers

Fallingstar Sun 22-Feb-26 17:36:01

So so sorry. My thoughts are with you 💐
Wishing you strength 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Ilovecheese Sun 22-Feb-26 17:37:01

So sorry FGT

Sago Sun 22-Feb-26 17:37:06

Sincere condolences.
You will be in my prayers.

rafichagran Sun 22-Feb-26 17:37:35

So Sorry to hear this. flowers

Doodledog Sun 22-Feb-26 17:39:21

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that, FGT.

I don't know what to say, other than that I hope you have people around you who can make things even a little bit easier, and that you remember to take care of yourself. flowers

GranEd Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:04

So very sorry to read your sad news.
Sending much love and sympathy to you and your lovely family. 🌹 ❤️

Labradora Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:22

Oh my Lord, so very sorry.
"He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”."

What a wonderful and thoughtful sentiment.
God bless you.
💐💐

Norah Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:27

flowers My deepest sympathy.

Grammaretto Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:32

Condolences, strength and love to a very special lady.
You did your best until the end and love never dies.
flowers

WhiteSwan63 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:54

My heart is breaking for you.
Sending sincere condolences to all your family. 💐

Dippynan Sun 22-Feb-26 17:42:56

So sorry FGT2 x

spottybook Sun 22-Feb-26 17:43:22

So very sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you and your family. Your candid posts over Himself’s illness have greatly moved me and I’m sure many other others on Gransnet. I shall quietly raise a glass of wine to Himself this evening and wish you and your family strength in the months ahead.

Septimia Sun 22-Feb-26 17:44:56

I'm very sorry to hear your news FGT. My condolences to you and your family.

Silvershadow Sun 22-Feb-26 17:45:33

Sincere condolences 💐 very sad news indeed.

Grandmafrench Sun 22-Feb-26 17:45:59

And he was and always will be your darling. How valiantly he fought, how uncomplaining and patient he was - and how much did your dear brave man want to stay with the loving family you both created. You did him proud, Little Urms, rest now and know he’s no longer suffering but flying free forever from the safety of your heart. 🌹💔🌹

paddyann54 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:46:55

It’s been a hard road you have travelled now he is at rest take time to think of the good times and celebrate all he brought to your life,Deepest sympathy on this most difficult loss,I don’t do prayers but I,,ll light a candle for you and hope you find peace

Sar53 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:47:59

Dear FGT I am so sorry to hear your news. My very best wishes and condolences to you and the rest of your family xxx