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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

dustyangel Sun 22-Feb-26 20:26:09

My deepest sympathy FGT Thinking of you flowers

winterwhite Sun 22-Feb-26 20:19:40

Admiration for the strength and spirit you’ve shown, and deepest sympathy. Rest now.

Justwidowed Sun 22-Feb-26 20:19:18

Deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Sending prayers and love.🙏

benjamina Sun 22-Feb-26 20:17:07

Just saying how sorry I am to hear your very sad news. Your love for each other shone through. Life is sometimes incredibly cruel. This is one of those times. Sending love and care to a very special lady x

Smileless2012 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:12:51

So very sorry flowers.

Blossoming Sun 22-Feb-26 20:12:47

So very sorry to read this, sending you love xx

Ashcombe Sun 22-Feb-26 20:09:41

A wonderful tribute to the kind of man your husband must have been to be selflessly considering your needs in his advice to you. Thank you for writing what must have been a very difficult post.

Iam64 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:04:45

Thank you for taking the time to share this sad news with your many gransnet friends. The love you shared with your darling man will stay with you and I hope give some comfort as you live with his legacy, the joy of living
Sincere condolences

Greyduster Sun 22-Feb-26 20:04:04

I can’t tell you how sad I am to hear this. With his determination and his positivity, it was my fervent hope that he would defy the odds. My condolences to you, and to your family.

Esmay Sun 22-Feb-26 20:02:16

Im so sorry to read your sad news.
Grief is a terrible pain and I really feel for you .
Sending you my sincere condolences and a big hug .
Take care and
God bless you
Esmay
💐

GrandmaC47 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:00:24

So sorry to hear this. My sincere condolences to you and your family. xx

LOUISA1523 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:59:53

I am very sorry to hear this 💐

NannyJan53 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:53:14

So sad to hear this. You have both been in my thoughts daily. A very special man.

Thinking of you and your family X

Cossy Sun 22-Feb-26 19:50:59

FGT There are no words to properly describe either your pain or my empathy.

Please accept my very sincere condolences and know your friends and fellow Gransnetters send their love and sincere best wishes flowers 🫶

Ilovepuffins Sun 22-Feb-26 19:48:20

I am so sorry to read your sad news.
Thinking of you and your family.

Horatia Sun 22-Feb-26 19:46:28

Very sorry to read your post. Sincere condolences

Doodle Sun 22-Feb-26 19:45:53

Dear FGT I’m so sorry. I have been thinking about you and praying for you both. I know only too well how much it hurts to lose your lifelong love and I’m saddened for you.
Sending you a gentle hug. You have so many friends here who will support you.
You know where I am if you want to talk. Much love and sympathy.

Purplepixie Sun 22-Feb-26 19:44:56

Condolences. Hugs my dear friend. Xx

Allira Sun 22-Feb-26 19:43:53

I have been thinking about you, and am so sorry to hear the sad news about your beloved husband, FGT2 and send you and your family my deepest condolences. flowers

His words to you are wonderful, hold them close and remember them always.
He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.
What a generous, kind and lovely thought. He must have been a very special man.

Melanie61 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:40:36

So sorry for your loss , my deepest sympathies flowers

ixion Sun 22-Feb-26 19:38:49

I am so sorry to learn this, FGT.
Thinking of you and your family at this sad time💐

sodapop Sun 22-Feb-26 19:35:34

So sorry to hear your very sad news Friedgreentomatoes2 your husband must have been a very kind and caring man. My thoughts and sympathies are with you.thanks

twiglet77 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:34:20

My condolences on the sad loss of your husband. I do hope you are comforted that he had excellent hospice care at the end.

Grandmadinosaur Sun 22-Feb-26 19:33:13

I’m so very sorry to read this news FGT

Your dear man is at peace now having fought so very bravely. Take comfort in that you were fortunate to have a wonderfully happy marriage and a treasure of a husband. As others say take of yourself now too. 💐

RIP Himself

LadyGracie Sun 22-Feb-26 19:26:43

FGT, I’ve been thinking and praying for you both each day.

My most sincere condolences xxx