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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

AGAA4 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:25:01

So sorry FGT. I have been there too. Your friends and family will be your strength in the time to come. 🥀

JamesandJon33 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:22:34

Whichever God you look to, God Bless cariad

M0nica Sun 22-Feb-26 19:19:48

My deepest sympathy. For all of us fortunate enough to be happily married. The knowledge that one day there will only be one of us is the greatest fear that hangs over us. You have lost the fear, but must live with the reality.

Someone said that grief is the price we pay for love. Remember that when the grief is at iits worst.

Jalyn Sun 22-Feb-26 19:18:34

So sorry for your loss xx

Deedaa Sun 22-Feb-26 19:15:34

I know I have often disagreed with you about things, but I am so sorry to hear this. One of my oldest friends died of this cancer and it is a horrible thing. It's six years now since my husband died, and it does get easier, but it's such a huge part of your life gone.

Dickens Sun 22-Feb-26 19:13:04

I knew, when I no longer saw your posts on topics where you'd normally appear.

Last August, I was where you are now. It's overwhelming...

Himself's existence was part of your reality, the better the love, the sharper the grief.

My most sincere condolences FGT. x

Smintie Sun 22-Feb-26 19:11:31

I am so very sorry xx

Chrissielou Sun 22-Feb-26 19:10:38

I am so sorry for your loss. May the love of your family bring you comfort at this dreadful time.

hollysteers Sun 22-Feb-26 19:07:33

I echo Grandmafrench and have been thinking of you and Himself going through this most difficult time, which many of us here understand so well.
Sincere condolences to you and all your family 🙏🏻

monk08 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:05:58

Condolences FGT to you and your family 🙏flowers

GrannyIvy Sun 22-Feb-26 19:05:17

I am so sorry and sad to hear your news. Sending love and my very sincere condolences to you and all your family x

Scribbles Sun 22-Feb-26 19:04:39

I am so sorry. Sending you love.

grandMattie Sun 22-Feb-26 19:02:46

My dear FGT, I’m so sad for you and your family. There is nothing I can say, except it gets “less worse” with time. The hole is never filled but it gets bearable.
Listen to Himself’s request.
Hundreds of hugs, etc.
I’m here should you need me. Xxx🦩🦩🦩🦩

Hiraeth Sun 22-Feb-26 19:00:54

Dear FGT his wings were ready but your heart was not .
With time the memories of the wonderful years you had together will be stronger than remembering the suffering your very brave „himself „ went through .
You too have been through so much this last 10 months . Grief is hard .
Thinking of you .

Charleygirl5 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:56:55

Your words brought tears to my eyes, so sorry.

Whitewavemark2 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:54:37

With heartfelt sympathy.

25Avalon Sun 22-Feb-26 18:50:53

Deepest sympathy at this sad time. May the angels watch over you.

Bellanonna Sun 22-Feb-26 18:47:33

Sad news, indeed, FGT. Thankfully Himself is now at rest.

Thorntrees Sun 22-Feb-26 18:46:51

There are no words,just sending loving thoughts and deep synmpathy to you and your family.
Will keep you all in my prayers.

Ladyleftfieldlover Sun 22-Feb-26 18:44:01

I am so sorry to hear this news FGT. I am thinking of you and your family at this dreadful and sad time.

baubles Sun 22-Feb-26 18:43:35

FGT I’m so very sorry for your great loss. My sincere condolences to you and your little family. flowers

JaneJudge Sun 22-Feb-26 18:39:08

I’m so sorry FGT. Love to you and your family flowers

wendyann23 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:38:56

I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time.

Treebee Sun 22-Feb-26 18:37:15

My condolences Fried Green Tomatoes 2

Ziplok Sun 22-Feb-26 18:36:19

I’ve only just seen your post, FGT and send you my deepest condolences 💐.