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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

Suederlou Mon 23-Feb-26 13:21:34

So very sorry for your sad loss. X

Hithere Mon 23-Feb-26 13:29:17

My condolences for your loss

sukie Mon 23-Feb-26 13:31:47

So sorry for your loss FGT flowers

Nell82 Mon 23-Feb-26 13:50:17

With deepest sympathy FGT

Maria59 Mon 23-Feb-26 14:51:59

My deepest sympathy to you. He always knew he was loved very much. thanks

fiorentina51 Mon 23-Feb-26 15:13:17

So sorry for your loss. I hope you have the support of family and friends at this difficult time. 💐

hulahoop Mon 23-Feb-26 15:53:07

In sorry to see that himself died yesterday ,I never met you both but it was obvious from your posts how close you were .Take care of yourself it's what he wanted you to do 🌸

ClicketyClick Mon 23-Feb-26 16:07:03

I'm so very sorry to read that you've lost your soulmate. Your love and support that you gave o Himself has always shone through on your posts. You couldn't have done any more or anything better so please be gentle on yourself. Sincere condolences to you and your wider circle.

Chestnut Mon 23-Feb-26 16:09:56

I was so sad to hear your news. Sending deepest condolences and best wishes. 💐🌹💌🙏

Wheniwasyourage Mon 23-Feb-26 16:29:02

So sad to hear your news, FGT. Sending virtual hugs and best wishes. flowers

Badgergran Mon 23-Feb-26 16:31:17

Very sorry for your loss. Sending love and hugs to you and your family.

friendlygingercat Mon 23-Feb-26 16:33:04

Sorry for your loss

Gelisajams Mon 23-Feb-26 16:36:44

Sincere condolences FGT .Hold fast to Himself’s words. 💐

Doodle Mon 23-Feb-26 19:42:02

FGT along with many others, I’m sure, I can’t stop thinking about you and what you’re going through. Those of us who have suffered the same loss will be holding your close in their thoughts 💕

Iam64 Mon 23-Feb-26 20:00:13

FGT, I’m echoing Doodle’s comment. You (and your loved ones ) have been on my mind. Those of us who have suffered a similar loss will be holding you close in our hearts.

Moth62 Mon 23-Feb-26 20:06:47

My very deepest sympathies to you and your family in your loss.

B9exchange Mon 23-Feb-26 20:10:43

My heart goes out to you as half of you has been ripped away. It is terrible watching a loved one suffer and we wish their anguish would cease, but when parted it seems our reason for living has gone. But your very wise DH knew this and is willing you to develop a life without him, terribly hard, but I believe you will do it. I pray you will manage to get some sleep tonight. Xx

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Mon 23-Feb-26 20:20:39

Oh how utterly wonderful are you all?
These messages of love and support show virtual friends within GN at the very best.

I’ve read every single message and have been so touched and heartened (some made my cry) and truly from the bottom
Of my heart I cannot begin to thank you enough.

I hope to be back in a week or so. I’ve missed being part of the GN community these past months.

I’ve admin to do first
Another hurdle but I’ve got support xxx

pably15 Mon 23-Feb-26 20:28:26

How very sad to read this, your husband sounds like a very lovely sincere man, who was thinking about you at the end. your heart must be breaking, You must have some very happy memories of 52 years together, they must bring you some comfort, sending you hugs. take care

Galaxy Mon 23-Feb-26 20:32:42

You better be starting a controversial thread on your first day back fgt, or I will be most disappointed. All my love x

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Mon 23-Feb-26 21:18:05

😁😁

brook2704 Mon 23-Feb-26 21:20:37

Looking forward to having you back with us when the time is right fgt, we’ve missed you but understand. Sending much love and support for the difficult days ahead ❤️

Allira Mon 23-Feb-26 23:14:18

Whenever you're ready, FGT2.
In the meantime, sending a hug 💐

Celieanne86 Mon 23-Feb-26 23:34:58

My sincere and deepest sympathy to you and your family is sent with love and friendship having seen and read your postings for such a long time.

Having lost my own beloved husband two years ago I feel every emotion with you and I pray you will find the strength snd courage to carry on with all the love your heart can bear.

I am thinking about you now and send sincere love.

Iam64 Tue 24-Feb-26 08:13:07

Galaxy

You better be starting a controversial thread on your first day back fgt, or I will be most disappointed. All my love x

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