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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

Redcar Sun 22-Feb-26 17:59:00

I’m so so sorry to hear your news fgt, please accept my sincere sympathies to you and your family.
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Pantglas2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:58:59

Oh this is the saddest news we all hoped wasn’t coming 💐FGT

You talk about his bravery and I’d like to add yours too over the last three years as you supported him every step of the way where we all willed you on 🥰

Take care of yourself now with smiles at your fondest memories x

LindaPat Sun 22-Feb-26 17:57:25

I'm so sorry to hear this FGT. Sending love and strength to you. Please take care of yourself. We are all thinking of you. xxx

Shelflife Sun 22-Feb-26 17:57:24

My thoughts are with you FGT. Hang on to those wonderful words your husband gave you about taking all the sadness with him and leave you to the joy of living. That has really brought tears to my eyes. He had a very difficult time and you had to witness that - I can only imagine how distressing that must have been. I wish you peace and strength. 💐🌸

Rosie51 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:56:53

FGT I'm so very sorry to hear this news. Please be kind to yourself, just as your darling husband would want. You're both in my prayers.

merlotgran Sun 22-Feb-26 17:56:28

I’m so very sorry to read your sad news, FGT. Sending you love and strength for the days ahead. Take care of yourself.

Greenfinch Sun 22-Feb-26 17:56:20

Sending love and prayerful thoughts to you at this saddest of all times.

Usedtobeblonde Sun 22-Feb-26 17:55:35

flowers and condolences.

Beechnut Sun 22-Feb-26 17:55:14

I remember his words to you Fried and I’m so very sorry for your loss and send you my love xx

MT62 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:52:37

Oh sorry & so sad for your loss FGT. I haven’t seen your posts on here for while & did ask about you, (I haven’t been on for a few months) as I enjoy your posts.
I lost my dear friend to throat cancer a few years ago, so can imagine your pain.
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Kate1949 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:51:47

I am so very, very sorry. flowers

MartavTaurus Sun 22-Feb-26 17:51:08

I'm so sorry to hear this FGT.
He sounds like a very special person.

Susan56 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:49:48

I’m so sorry.Sending you love and strength and keeping you in my prayers.

The love you shared and your care and strength for each other shone through your posts.

May your amazing man rest in peace and may you be surrounded by the love and care of your family, friends and virtual friends.

Sar53 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:47:59

Dear FGT I am so sorry to hear your news. My very best wishes and condolences to you and the rest of your family xxx

paddyann54 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:46:55

It’s been a hard road you have travelled now he is at rest take time to think of the good times and celebrate all he brought to your life,Deepest sympathy on this most difficult loss,I don’t do prayers but I,,ll light a candle for you and hope you find peace

Grandmafrench Sun 22-Feb-26 17:45:59

And he was and always will be your darling. How valiantly he fought, how uncomplaining and patient he was - and how much did your dear brave man want to stay with the loving family you both created. You did him proud, Little Urms, rest now and know he’s no longer suffering but flying free forever from the safety of your heart. 🌹💔🌹

Silvershadow Sun 22-Feb-26 17:45:33

Sincere condolences 💐 very sad news indeed.

Septimia Sun 22-Feb-26 17:44:56

I'm very sorry to hear your news FGT. My condolences to you and your family.

spottybook Sun 22-Feb-26 17:43:22

So very sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you and your family. Your candid posts over Himself’s illness have greatly moved me and I’m sure many other others on Gransnet. I shall quietly raise a glass of wine to Himself this evening and wish you and your family strength in the months ahead.

Dippynan Sun 22-Feb-26 17:42:56

So sorry FGT2 x

WhiteSwan63 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:54

My heart is breaking for you.
Sending sincere condolences to all your family. 💐

Grammaretto Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:32

Condolences, strength and love to a very special lady.
You did your best until the end and love never dies.
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Norah Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:27

flowers My deepest sympathy.

Labradora Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:22

Oh my Lord, so very sorry.
"He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”."

What a wonderful and thoughtful sentiment.
God bless you.
💐💐

GranEd Sun 22-Feb-26 17:41:04

So very sorry to read your sad news.
Sending much love and sympathy to you and your lovely family. 🌹 ❤️