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Bereavement

My sister's husband is dying of cancer

(31 Posts)
LemonJelly Sun 01-Mar-26 15:46:15

I am going to visit him tonight when other family members have gone.
I don't know what to say to him - I mean, what do you say to a dying man? He only has a couple of weeks left...I don't know how to do this, I've never done it before but don't want to mess it up.
Can anyone help?

WithNobsOnIt Tue 03-Mar-26 18:00:46

Some top class advice from Other Posters about on how to handle this
very sad situation.

My thoughts are with you.

💗💐🙏
Xxx

Madgran77 Tue 03-Mar-26 18:08:04

"What are the things that matter to you now? Is there anything I can help with?"

grannygran Tue 03-Mar-26 20:27:56

I hope you cope ok. I visited my sisters husband several times before he passes. On the last occasion he obviously senced the end was very near. He made a point of saying it was my sister he was worrying about. I assured him she was a strong lady, and between us, we would make sure she was OK.
It seemed to settle him. Other than that we talked about other friends who were visiting reminiscing a couple of funny, happy events. He tired easily so not a long visit

grannygranby Wed 04-Mar-26 10:28:48

From the little I know.. being there and holding hand or whatever gesture is appropriate.. a hug if possible I think canadiangran got it right. It’s to show you care and you will miss him and that you are very sad that he is going. How you convey that is in the hands of the gods. Good luck. Perhaps thank him for all he has given to your life. Show respect and love the best you can. See it as an honour that you can say goodbye and not just go to his funeral. It’s very very hard. You are right to be fearful it’s the most awesome thing we can do.

nodramahere Thu 05-Mar-26 05:11:43

Talk about happy memories. Photo albums work. Also get a Spotify list up of music he likes.