Clearing my late dad's place

Penguin2024 unfortunately it seems that the only solution is to be practical. Why don’t you take the personal possessions you want to keep, tell your brother you have done as much as you can, and get a house clearance firm in to do the rest? I know that sounds unemotional, but if you have no space in your flat, the only way you can take furniture is by disposing of an equivalent sized piece you already have. You can spare yourself the onerous task if it is too much for you?

Good luck with this difficult, sad task. I hope it works out for you soon.

I would look online to find your local auction house. Check reviews are OK, then ring and ask for an appointment at your Dad’s home. Auction houses handle these matters on a daily basis, you will find them very sympathetic. It’s in their interest to get the best price for your pieces, so you can rest assured that they will deal appropriately with your possessions. It may take a while to sort everything, but using professionals is by far the easiest way to handle this.

I have been in almost the same place as you are. This year, after 5 years of talking about it, things are actually happening.

I was very brave and phoned the auction house who came and were sensitive and helpful.
At last some big furniture is off to auction.
It's not as bad as you imagine!

I like to think that things we've loved are going to be used again.

It's truly like dipping your toes into the freezing sea but taking the plunge.
You feel much better afterwards.

Remember you don't have to get rid of everything all at once. You can keep some treasures.

I really feel for you and am sorry for your loss. When my mum died 2 years ago and we had to sell the large family home, it was full of lovely furniture and loads of things me and my brothers simply couldn’t move to our own homes. So we made the decision to just pick a few items each which had emotional significance and get a house clearance company to take the rest.
I literally just chose a handful of small things because I didn’t want to clutter my home. But I sometimes think of the wonderful mid-century furniture that the family home was filled with. We all knew we had to let it go and even though we could have got something for some of the items, we didn’t have the will to try and sell them and let them go.
I know this probably doesn’t help you much because you won’t be able to afford a house clearance company (or maybe your wealthy brother will pay?) but in terms of the emotional attachment to things, I’d recommend you just choose a few small items to take home. Local councils will take away big items (ours will take up to 4) for not much money, so perhaps you could consider that?

We have just cleared my mums house and last year cleared my mother in laws house.

It is a very emotional job as well as dealing with the loss of your dad.

I asked all family members to come and take what they wanted.The people buying the house luckily took quite a few things.For the rest I got a house clearance firm in.Neither of my brothers wanted me to do this but neither would help so I had no choice.Like you everything I looked at had a memory but we had sorted as much and rehomed as much as we could.

The day of the house clearance I found difficult but the feeling of relief when the house was empty was huge.As Flipping says we have our memories.

If your son doesn’t want you to dispose his things could you ask him to rent a storage unit to put them in which would free up space for you to have some of your favourite items from your parents flat.

It’s a hard and emotional job.Sending you strength💐

Meant to say if you sell items take photos beforehand.

In the nicest way possible you can't keep things you have no room for,memories stay with you,try to stop stressing and arrange for things to be valued and removed. We had guilty feelings when we emptied our mum's but it wasn't practical for any of us to use a lot of stuff as we already had furnishings. Doesn't take away any of the memories of us sitting around the big table as a family because they'll always be there .
The stress won't be doing you any good selling the furniture etc will help you out and surely your dad would have wanted that ,good luck

I have been in a similar situation with my mother’s house and my brother who sounds like yours who after going through for anything worth anything left me to deal with the rest which was a lot due to her bring something of a hoarder. So you are not alone.
I am sorry, you are obviously overwhelmed. I can only suggest you focus on one room at a time but without transport it’s not going to be easy. Do you have friends or family even if abroad who can help and be with you ? It’s very difficult doing this alone.