Kate1949
My mother died when I was 23, my sister was left without her mother at 14. My in-laws both died in 1971, both in their 50s, leaving an 1 year old son. My brother took his own life at 24. My nephew died of leukemia at 16. I was visiting him in hospital when he died. His mother never got over it (obviously) and died of a heart attack aged 49 leaving a young son. It is far from easy.
for you all.
You've had more than your fair share of deaths, and in really tragic circumstances. You must be a strong person to deal with all that.
My brother took his own life too. There's a me before it happened and a me after. I feel quite numb to everything. There's a Motorhead song where he sings 'win some, lose some, it's all the same to me. If I gambled on a horse for instance, it wouldn't matter whether I lost or won, I just don't feel anymore.
The outpouring of support and emotion on here illustrates so well how lovely every single one of you GNs truly are.
Despite robust debate and polar opposite opinions in some subjects, where and when it counts, you are all beautiful souls.
Thank you
Pebbles101
I thought yes that’s a good way to put it - wipes everything out. This year my 22y granddaughter died suddenly and I am still long term slowly grieving the slow loss my of husband of 53 years whilst he deteriorates with MND . I think my life as I expected it to be at 70 is wiped out and any control of things is gone . So no I don’t think it will ever get any better.
Sending hugs
Kate1949
My mother died when I was 23, my sister was left without her mother at 14. My in-laws both died in 1971, both in their 50s, leaving an 1 year old son. My brother took his own life at 24. My nephew died of leukemia at 16. I was visiting him in hospital when he died. His mother never got over it (obviously) and died of a heart attack aged 49 leaving a young son. It is far from easy.
How utterly awful, such a lot for one human to go through. 💐
My mother died when I was 23, my sister was left without her mother at 14. My in-laws both died in 1971, both in their 50s, leaving an 1 year old son. My brother took his own life at 24. My nephew died of leukemia at 16. I was visiting him in hospital when he died. His mother never got over it (obviously) and died of a heart attack aged 49 leaving a young son. It is far from easy. for you all.
FriedGreenTomatoes2
I think a virtual group hug is in order don’t you for those of us struggling or trying to come to terms with loss. Grief is messy and complicated. I’m having weekly bereavement counselling sessions and have come to realise (a) how individual grief is and (b) it’s not linear.
🤗🤗🤗
Both my parents are dead , as many here also. I’m an only child and was very close to them both, I watched my DM grieve for the rest of her life 2016-2022, her grief for her DH never ever faded.
I can empathise with people, but not having a husband or child die, I can never really understand.
A longstanding friend’s husband died in 2016, she was 56, he was 66. She was, naturally, devastated and wanted to end her life. She didn’t however, and slowly but surely rebuilt her life and came to terms with her loss and “new” life.
She has met a new partner, she’ll never marry him, but they do live together and have a nice life. She’ll never forget her husband, she still grieves, but discretely and silently. She simply didn’t want to live the rest of her life alone.
My heart is with her and everyone else grieving
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