Newly widowed

So sorry HelterSkelter.
I remember the feeling so well. I kept expecting him to walk in the door.

Oh dear lady, so very sad for you. Lean on your family and friends for strength and support and please be kind to yourself now and take things slowly. 💐

My sincere condolences Helteskelter.
Like you I nursed my husband at home. After his death I used to do what you are doing, stand in the room and picture him there.
At the moment you are in the 'gut wrenching ' awfulness of new grief.
I promise you that this dreadful pain will ease, but you will always love, miss and remember your husband.
Keeping you in my thoughts.

Sincere condolences Helterskelter many of us empathise with you.
Stay chatting to us ,we will listen and totally understand.
My H’s bed was in our dining room and I was unable to eat in there again after he died.
I eventually got rid of all the dining furniture , got a small table and four chairs for the conservatory and have now made a snug ,just for me, in the former dining room.

I am sorry to hear about your loss HelterSkelter. Be kind to yourself, and accept any offers of help from your friends and family.

My sincere condolences to you HelterSkelter. I will be thinking of you and hoping that family and friends are surrounding you with their love. You have loved and cared for him and been there for him all this time, and that makes it so much harder in the beginning, when your days revolved round his needs. Know that your friends on GN are always here for you whatever time of day or night you might need someone around.

Like many others I am thinking of you . 💐💐

Sending you a big hug and both condolences for your loss and good positive wishes for your new future, Heltershelter

Sending gentle hugs

I’m so sorry. 💐xx

I’m so sorry for your loss, Helterskelter - very early days for you on this hardest and longest of all roads to tread, but, in time you’ll learn to make small adjustments, in your heart and in your head, that will enable you to move forward. And he’ll always be there to help you💐.

Saddened to hear your news, HelterSkelter1.

Thinking of you at this difficult time💐

So sorry to hear your news. My heart hurts for you as I remember only too well those early days when the world kept turning but mine was shattered. It is eleven years for me. You learn to carry the grief with you, it escapes every so often, but it never really leaves. Life carries on in a different way, one small step at a time. My heartfelt condolences to you and all who loved your dear husband. May he rest in peace.💐

Sincere condolences HelterSkelter. Be kind, gentle and patient with yourself. The death of our life partners is so significant, it’s hard to find words for. When my husband died I posted a similar thread title to yours. I received so many kind, wise comments from other gransnetters.
Bellasnana puts it well, you learn that grief will never leave but that somehow we learn to walk with it. I am forever grateful that I met my husband at the right time for both of us. 42 good years together

Thank you everyone. We met 56 years ago and married for 53.
Such a long time, but it all seems like yesterday. Happy times and problem times. That's life. Would do it again but some things differently now I look back. I expect he would say the same.
Thank you again. Kind words.

Sincere condolences

Sincere condolences to you and the family

I’m so sorry to hear this Helterskelter and send you my condolences 💐

I’m so sorry, Helterskelter That’s roughly the same time frame as my Dh and me. It’s a long time together and then suddenly, even when it’s expected, your world has lurched violently on its axis and you have to find a new balance.

I’m a few months down the line from you and I am still not sure what that balance will look like. I don’t think there’s any one size fits all advice in this situation, except for suggesting that you don’t be rushed into any decisions. Take as much time as you need.

Thinking of you very much. Xx

Sorry for your loss x

Condolences to you. I have some idea of how you're feeling as my DH died about six weeks ago after a very short illness. There's some very wise words given by others on this site.

I am sorry for your loss.

So sorry HelterSkelter no rush, go gently x

so very sorry to hear this, even when you know it will happen ,you are never prepared for the terrible feelings of loss.
Take care

I am so very sorry for your loss. Just sending kind thoughts and condolences to you and your family