Would the child/children actually get the letter though and would they not already be poisoned against you by their parent/parents? It is a really hard decision whether or not to buy presents/cards, write letters, keep a diary or whatever to let your estranged grandchildren know that you love them and care about them. I have thought about it lots. I do not keep a diary nor buy presents or cards. My ED, I think, will make sure that I am not talked about and am obliterated from my GS's lives and, even if I did leave something with a solicitor for when they turn 18, I do think she would see to it that what I said in the letter was untruths. Sometimes it just hurts too much. I know that as grandparents we want our GC to know that we care and maybe one day I will be able to write something but not now. My eldest GS will be finishing his first year in school soon, it breaks my heart to even know that never mind not being able to be a part of it. At this moment I cannot forgive my ED for keeping them from me. It's been two years now. The youngest will be three years old. And not even know I exist.
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