Home care package for 92 year old father

This is all truly terrifying and very very sad. I feel for you all and hope and pray that you somehow get the justice your parents deserve.

Pogs, I believe the correct route to complain is via MP. They forward the complaint to the ministry and then the ministry responds to them. If you go to the minister their aids just send to the MP.

Use www.writetothem.com

Mishap I am boiling with anger on your behalf - and on your dad's behalf. I know it doesn't help but am thinking about you. As I have said before as your sister in the one nearby and is able to do the running about, can you be the one who documents every single thing that has and is happening and complain vigorously. Division of labour. I am sure the Trusts are all terrified of being splashed all over the papers like mid staffs. Write to the "high heid yins" with chapter and verse. You must be emotionally exhausted. I feel like crying and he is not my dad!

I have documented it all for use when the time is right.

As far as "on the ground" right now, my sister is very much on the case - I suspect that they groan when she walks in the door. It is not right that she has to maintain this level of vigilance; nor good for her as she already has enough stress in her life.

My brother is down there at the moment and I hope he will kick some a**e.

He's back at the hospital now - they did send a nurse with him to the x-ray dept at the other hospital. He probably enjoyed a bit of company for the first time in ages! Thankfully he has no obvious fractures, although consultant radiologist will look at it tomorrow.

When the time is right? I'm with Galen"

Two of you kicking arse might move molehill or two in the nhs.
For heavens sake woman. You're a feisty Gnetter.
Gird up your loins and go and buckle some swash at these idiots.

Aye, away at them woman.

Here,here!

Me too! For you and your father.

Latest - Dad has recovered from his chest infection and now has a D&V bug that is doing the rounds on the ward. He does not seem too bad at this stage so we have our fingers crossed that all will be well. He is a tough old bird - just as well!

I do not really blame the hospital for this - it is so hard to prevent such a bug spreading in that setting once someone has introduced it.

We were planning to try and get him home for Tuesday week, then this happened, so we wait and see.

Don't be too soft on the hospital, Mishap

There's a lot of it about. It's rife in my mother's care home - no visitors - and I heard today that the NNUH, Nowich is baning all visitors due to The Bug. Was it this bad in the days of Matron and disinfectant?

And another update.

This afternoon he fell again in the ward and has been shipped off to another hospital on a 999 call, as there are no x-ray facilities where he is. He was sent on his own, so my sister has driven to the hospital to sit with him. They have now been gone about 5 hours and I am awaiting some word. He has a pain in his hip - let us hope against hope that it is not broken.

Sadly he is becoming quite confused, which can no longer be put down to drugs as he is now only on paracetamol; or to infection because as far as we know both the UTI amnd chest infection are cleared. I hope his mental state does not continue to decline.

Is it dehydration?

He has fractured neck of left femur and they are admitting him to this new hospital for surgery tomorrow. Goodness knows if he is strong enough to survive all this. If he does he will be back into a long recovery period again.

Galen - I think dehydration was a problem at one point (caused by poor care in his rehab bed in a residential home), but one of the hospitals got on top of that. I do not know how careful this last ward was over his hydration - they were not too careful over making sure he did not fall.

I am not surprised that he is muddled - he has now been in hospital 1 twice, hospital 2, rehab bed in a residential home, now in hospital 3.

What a dreadful worry for you, Mishap I really do hope your father copes with the ordeal of surgery after his fall and that the aftercare meets his needs. You must feel so helpless

No wonder the poor man is confused! Thinking about you and sending you .

You and your family must wonder when you are going to wake up from this nightmare Mishap I hope all goes well for your Dad and you and your family get some rest and much needed peace of mind

Sympathies, it's a horrible time for you all . My thoughts and prayers ar with you

Mishap. It is just going from bad to worse, I am so sorry

Mishap I'm sorry to hear you're having such a terrible time. I hope your dad is going to be ok. How worrying for you

Mishap such a sad story - your poor father and poor you.

mishap on your behalf. I do hope you have documented it all and that the dossier will be handed on to the appropriate department at some point.