First let me say that my mother carers are great and that I do understand that there is little training for carers but that worries me, both for them and for the person being cared for.
Certainly, mum's carers seem to have been told they must always ask before they do something for mum and I understand that. We have been trying to add changing mum's sheets to one of their calls, once a week. I have been doing them and mum thinks she has been doing them even though she sees me doing them. The carers were having problems because mum 'wouldn't let them' change the sheets .
Because of this I have said I will go over to be there for that call and help until it becomes another regular point in the week that mum recognises and accepts. I was quite taken aback to find that the carer said to mum. "P is it alright if I change your sheets?". My poor mother has no idea and her greatest thought will be that she should be doing it. It is really quite cruel to ask her to make a decision when she has nothing to base it on. She will not know if her sheets need changing; if she should have changed them or why a carer is now changing them. If you put her on the spot she will tell you she changed them yesterday.
She was about to say no so I said "mum, we are just going to change your sheets while your dinner is cooking. She could still say no, but basically she is not having to process things she has no way of processing.
I can see me going for a few weeks yet. More importantly she is "refusing" cups of tea, etc. and I wonder if this is because of the same thing. I don't really know how to deal with this but I think I will have to do something.
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